It’s TMI time baby! You know what to do: answer the questions below, and post to your blogs on Tuesday—TMI Tuesday.
Jack’s Answers
1. Who are you?
Per my Twitter profile, I am a non-monogamous poly geek, and a feminist stay-at-home Dad. I am a freethinker, and an artist on the page, behind the camera, and in the kitchen. I am a loyal friend, an insatiable lover, and a romantic at heart.
2. What is your purpose in this world?
To live a life that makes me happy – whatever that ultimately entails – and hopefully to spread some of that happiness to others.
3. What do you need to be sexually happy?
Non-monogamy. More than any particular manner of adventure or excitement, more even than orgasm I suppose (though I do need regular orgasms), I require variety with regard to my partners.
4. Have you found true love?
Yep. Jill and I may have some of the hottest sex imaginable, but we love each other pretty deeply as well. Which is not to say that I haven’t found love with others, but hers is the truest love I can imagine.
5. How do you nourish yourself?
With delicious (usually home-cooked) food, sex with my wife and others, quality time with family and close friends, flirting with anyone who’s game, and as much quiet time as is humanly possible (still not enough though).
6. Do you crave more or less sex now versus 2 years ago?
I’m probably craving the same amount of sex as I was craving two years ago.
7. Are you having sex more or less now versus 2 years ago?
I am having much more sex than I was two years ago. In fact, I’d go so far as to say I’m having about as much as I was having circa the heyday of this blog in 2012, when we were having sex near-daily.
8. Who is sexier–the 20-year-old you or you right now?
Definitely thirty-nine year-old (i.e. present-day) me. Twenty-year-old me thought he was hot as hell, and he was pretty sexy. But compared to present-day me, that guy is a troll under a bridge.
Bonus: Think back to your last sexual encounter–were you emotionally present? Why or Why not?
I was. I’d say it was because I was having sex with my wife, but I’m likely to be emotionally present regardless of my partner. Admittedly when it’s with my wife my emotional presence is much greater.
Jill’s Answers
1. Who are you?
I’m a strong, caring, intelligent, sex-positive mother and wife.
2. What is your purpose in this world?
My purpose is to make the world a better place through my actions and interactions.
3. What do you need to be sexually happy?
I need someone who desires and pleases me, and who I can turn on and please as well. Some degree of sexual variety is probably necessary too. And I say this as a woman who just a year ago was certain I didn’t actually require more than one single partner for the rest of my life. Desire, maybe. Require, no.
4. Have you found true love?
I believe I have found true love in my husband, primary partner, and best friend.
5. How do you nourish yourself?
After years of putting the needs of everyone and everything ahead of my own, I have recently begun to nourish myself by making more time for myself. I take regular bubble baths, get massages frequently, exercise daily, and eat healthier than I used to. It’s all part of my strategy for being the best me I can possibly be.
6. Do you crave more or less sex now versus 2 years ago?
I crave more sex than I did two years ago. In 2014, we were adjusting to a number of life changes including our daughter being much more aware, vocal, and needy than she was a year earlier. This limited the amount of sex we were able to have. And while the amount of sex one is having shouldn’t necessarily correspond with the amount they want, the fact is there was a point when I adjusted my expectations and maybe wanted it a bit less than I do now. At the very least I didn’t expect it as much as I did in, say, 2011 and 2012 (when we had sex frequently).
7. Are you having sex more or less now versus 2 years ago?
More now, as stated above.
8. Who is sexier–the 20-year-old you or you right now?
Me right now. I am currently much more confident than I was at twenty. That adds to my overall hotness.
Bonus: Think back to your last sexual encounter–were you emotionally present? Why or Why not?
I was definitely emotionally present. I think I always am, to some extent.
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