Jack’s Answers

1. List ONE word to describe your last sexual encounter.
Necessary.

2. What was your best or most memorable sexual experience prior to meeting your current partner? Tell us about it.  [Note: We have modified question #2, as the original question is in our Formspring queue to be answered in a future installment of Formspring Friday.]
When I chose this as the replacement question, I knew it would be a difficult one to answer.  I weighed the pros and cons of much of the scope of my sexual experience prior to meeting Jill.  In some cases a mediocre episode was elevated by the excitement of seeing someone naked after years of wanting to.  In other cases a really good experience was brought down a bit by the fact that I had no feelings for the person or in some cases actively disliked her.  Ultimately I settled on an incident from my very early twenties, one both memorable and very exciting.

I’d been dating the person for a couple months, and we were invited to a friend’s wedding in Reno.  We planned to get a hotel room and stay the weekend, but there was one catch:  She still lived at home, and her Dad vetoed me keeping her out overnight.  She’d stayed over many times, thanks to cooperative girlfriends who let her use them as excuses, but as her parents knew that we were going to this wedding, that wasn’t going to work.  She did get permission to stay out as late as she wanted, she just couldn’t sleep over – whatever the fuck difference that made.

The friend completely understood our leaving the wedding early; we had a four-hour drive to my place.  We arrived in the evening, and had sex for eight hours, stopping partway-through for an short nap.  At around 3:30 AM we made the hour-long drive to her place so I could drop her off.  In retrospect, I probably should have just sprung for a hotel.

3. Do you fuck outside the box?
Inspiration: http://hausofmm.blogspot.com/2011/04/fucking-outside-box.html?
We all have a laundry list of things–features, demographic characteristics, etc. that we like and/prefer in a sexual partner. Do you ever deviate from that list? Give an example.
Yes.  I have never fucked inside a box in my life.  Ahem.  Okay, seriously.  I’m a guy with an enormous sexual drive, so while I have always had a set of criteria for potential sexual partners, this criteria was flung out the window the minute a woman who didn’t quite meet them expressed an interest.  An example of this can be found in a couple different women I dated in college who, following early-afternoon trysts, would immediately turn on Jerry Springer, much to my revulsion.  I usually took that as my cue to exit.

4. Do you blend BDSM in to your relationship? If yes, just in the bedroom or in other areas of your life? Explain.
We’re fairly novice when it comes to BDSM.  We enjoy spanking, blindfolding, and light bondage as seen in this week’s Sinful Sunday.  That’s really as far into the BDSM realm as we’ve traveled.  We really haven’t done anything of that nature outside of the bedroom.

5. Does the thought of your partner/significant other having sex with another person turn you on? Would you want to watch the act? Would you like to join in?
Yeah, it does.  I haven’t always found this sort of thing hot, actually; when I was younger and far less secure both in my relationship and in myself, this would have been a shattering blow to my ego, and just the thought of it might have shaken my confidence and hurt the relationship.  Now, however, I am far more at ease with my marriage, my relationship with Jill, and who I am as a person, so I am comfortable thinking about it at the least, and it’s a fairly exciting thought.  I don’t know whether it’s something we’ll ever act on, though our evolving sexual boundaries indicate that we could.  For now at least, the idea is very appealing with the proviso that Jill is into it and actively participating.  In other words, the turn-on would stem from my wife’s pleasure more than it would from the voyeuristic thrill I would be experiencing.  I would want to watch the act, as it is our preference to carry out any extracurricular sexual escapades together rather than separately.  And yes, I imagine that I would join in if it was something Jill could handle.

Bonus: Fill in the blanks.
I like it _____ on the outside and ______ in the middle.
Chocolatey; crunchy.  “It” refers to a Twix bar.

Jill’s Answers

1. List ONE word to describe your last sexual encounter.
Satisfying!  Our last sexual encounter was this morning.  We woke up slowly after a wonderful night’s sleep, and spooned with Jack behind me.  He played with my breasts and my clit, then slipped inside me and fucked me from behind.  After that we did cowgirl and missionary.  It was hot.  If I had to use one word to describe the sex we had on Saturday night, it would be “rough”.  Jack tied me to the headboard, spanked my ass, then fucked me hard from behind while yanking my hair.  Yum.

2. What was your best or most memorable sexual experience prior to meeting your current partner? Tell us about it.  [Note: We have modified question #2, as the original question is in our Formspring queue to be answered in a future installment of Formspring Friday.]
Definitely the time I had sex with a fuck buddy at a local park.  We had gone out for a walk late at night and found ourselves at the park.  We sat on the swings for awhile, then we climbed on top of a play structure and began making out.  We lay down, and he reached under my skirt and started fingering me beneath my panties.  He took them off and went down on me, and I came over and over again.  After a few minutes we were fucking.  He came inside me, and then we figured we’d better go somewhere more private.  The sex that followed, in a hotel room, was plenty exciting, but just being out in the open, under the night sky with the possibility of discovery looming overhead, made this the most intense experience of my life up to that point.

3. Do you fuck outside the box?
Inspiration: http://hausofmm.blogspot.com/2011/04/fucking-outside-box.html?
We all have a laundry list of things–features, demographic characteristics, etc. that we like and/prefer in a sexual partner. Do you ever deviate from that list? Give an example.
My preference is for dark-haired guys of European descent, typically Italian.  I have no opinion regarding height, really, as long as we are close enough to kiss without bending or standing on a chair.  I usually dated guys of average height.  I prefer guys who are sweet, who are good communicators, and who have a sense of humor.  However, I’ve dated plenty of guys who didn’t quite fit this type.  For example, I once dated a tall blond guy who definitely was not my ideal, though I was much more disappointed by the internal differences than the external ones.  He was kind of a jerk.

Also, there are plenty of things I’ve done sexually that I couldn’t have predicted when I was a much younger woman.  Not only have I done these things, I enjoyed them.  Had someone told me that I would not only try anal sex but often request it of Jack, I wouldn’t have believed it.  Had someone told me that I would perform sexually on webcam and in person, I would have balked, as it didn’t fit into the tidy paradigm of what I thought sex was supposed to be.  Had someone told me that I would eat pussy, or have a threesome, I probably wouldn’t have believed that either.  The idea of watching my husband interact sexually with another woman wasn’t something I would have been okay with when I was first becoming a sexual being.  Had someone told me that I would enjoy being fisted, I probably would have asked what the hell that meant.

4. Do you blend BDSM in to your relationship? If yes, just in the bedroom or in other areas of your life? Explain.
Our BDSM experience is limited to very basic stuff so far.  I’ve been blindfolded, I’ve been tied up (just wrists and ankles, usually with handcuffs), and I’ve been spanked.  That’s about it.

5. Does the thought of your partner/significant other having sex with another person turn you on? Would you want to watch the act? Would you like to join in?
When we’ve had threesomes, I really enjoyed watching Jack give and receive oral sex, because I’ve received oral from and given oral to him, and I knew what our third was experiencing.  It was realy hot.  So far, that’s all we’ve done.  I haven’t ruled out watching him actually fuck another woman, but it’s not something that is imminent.  The fantasy is hot, but I don’t know how I’d feel watching it actually happen.  And yes, I did join in.

Bonus: Fill in the blanks.
I like it _____ on the outside and ______ in the middle.
I like it when it’s us on the outside and you in the middle, provided you’re a hot chick who likes to play with couples.

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