TMI Tuesday: December 5, 2017

Sometimes ya gotta do, what ya gotta do–like play TMI Tuesday!

Sexy Specifics

Liz Lemon and Jack Donaghy from “30 Rock

Just me (Jack) this week, folks…

1. What do you find sexiest in a woman?
An open mind. Don’t get me wrong; I am definitely turned on by a woman’s physicality. But I find engaging with a woman’s mind somehow far more exciting.

2. What do you find least sexy in a man?
Bigotry.

3. Have you ever been the other woman or man? Would you do it again?
I have, though I prefer not to be. I am always happiest when I can be with someone openly, without any sneaking around. I liken it to my current dilemma: I have an open relationship, but cannot date in my local area because of the likely repercussions – professional and personal – for my wife were I to be observed. I don’t enjoy that sort of repression, and I’d like to think I wouldn’t be the other man again. But I probably would.

4. Who puts more into a romantic relationship you or your significant other?
I do. There’s no question of this. I’ve always been the romantic sort. In the past, I think I was this way because it was how I thought I was supposed to be, or what the women I dated might have expected of me. These days, though, I think I put so much into a romantic relationship because it pleases me to do so.

5. Do you have a “work wife” or “office husband”?
Nope. I’m self-employed. It’s simply not an option.

Bonus: Are you in a healthy relationship? What makes you think so?
Not particularly, but I like to think it’s getting a little healthier each day.

Bonus, bonus: Is the “work spouse” strictly a U.S. American anomaly (they do spend an insane amount of hours at work)? One study found 32% of Americans admitted to having a work spouse.
What am I, a sociologist? How would I know?

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TMI Tuesday: November 28, 2017

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Spice it up!

Jack’s Answers

1. Why should you have sex on a first date?
Because you and your partner both want to. If that’s the case, I mean.

2. Why do you dislike giving oral sex?
I don’t. Who told you I didn’t like it? Suzy? It was Suzy, wasn’t it?

3. Tongue or no tongue? Explain.
Yes, I have a tongue. Do enough people not have them to justify including this question? Moving right along…

4. Would you have a sugar daddy or sugar mama?
Yes. I would gladly have a sugar anything or a sugar anyone, provided they had deep pockets and no issue with me fucking around.

5. What’s a sure sign that you need to get laid?
Am I breathing? If I’m breathing, that right there is a sign. As I write this it’s been three and a half months since I’ve had any kind of partnered sex. At some point I am likely to blog about the reasons why.

Bonus: Right this very second, which do you prefer– to make love or fuck like a wild animal?
I’d take either, really. I have reason to want each of these scenarios, and while I am good at both I’d likely opt for making love. Yeah, yeah, I know: You’re shocked. Look, I’d absolutely revel in a good, hard fuck with reckless abandon. But I’m also bereft of connection beyond the physical, and I have been for awhile. Call me crazy, but I’ll take the option that provides the much-needed emotional fix as well as the physical one.

Jill’s Answers

1. Why should you have sex on a first date?
You should have sex on the first date provided all parties want to.

2. Why do you dislike giving oral sex?
I don’t dislike giving oral sex. I enjoy it as long as the recipient likes what I’m doing. And I have a hard time with it if the person seems distracted or isn’t enjoying it. Under those circumstances I probably wouldn’t enjoy giving it.

3. Tongue or no tongue? Explain.
Tongue. I love tongue when kissing or being kissed. And I love being licked, especially during oral sex. Nice long, slow licks are the best.

4. Would you have a sugar daddy or sugar mama?
Honestly, a sugar daddy sounds great. I could use the extra money to get out of debt, though I’d much rather use it to live a life of leisure that would ideally include travel or relaxing/eating bonbons. However, I would prefer a give-and-take situation. Two people taking care of each other in equal measure is the ideal for me.

5. What’s a sure sign that you need to get laid?
I get very touchy-feely. I need to be touched and caressed all the time and make no secret of that need.

Bonus: Right this very second, which do you prefer– to make love or fuck like a wild animal?
To make love. I need deliberateness and sensuality. I need to connect emotionally as well as physically. That may change at a moment’s notice, but right this very second that’s what’s going to do it for me.

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TMI Tuesday: November 21, 2017

TMI Tuesday is up! Please join us for…

Past & Present

Jack’s Answers

1. What was your favorite band in high school?
Red Hot Chili Peppers.

2. What is your favorite band now?
Red Hot Chili Peppers.

3. What was your go to “make me feel better” food in high school?
I’m not sure I had one, honestly. I was familiar with the concept of comfort food but couldn’t identify one then any easier than I can now. While I was far from a confident go-getter when I was in high school, and while I certainly loved to eat, I wasn’t one to find solace in food.

4. What is your go to “make me feel better” food now? Why?
I can’t think of one now, either. Don’t get me wrong, there are many foods I enjoy and which give me pleasure. I just don’t know that any of them “make me feel better”, exactly. You know what? I’m just gonna go with booze.

5. Fill in the blank: That _____ was then; this _____ is now.
Masturbating several times a day; masturbating several times a day.

Bonus: Where were you and what were you doing on November 21, 2016?
Jill was off, and she took our daughter to school. After she returned we had sex, then went to see Fantastic Beasts and Where to Find Them. We tried going to a local Thai place for lunch but they were unexpected closed, so we had burritos at a taqueria near our daughter’s school, then picked her up. The late afternoon and evening, however, is anyone’s guess.

Jill’s Answers

1. What was your favorite band in high school?
Depeche Mode.

2. What is your favorite band now?
I don’t really have one. Billy Joel is my favorite singer, though.

3. What was your go to “make me feel better” food in high school?
Potato chips, specifically Munchos.

4. What is your go to “make me feel better” food now? Why?
Still potato chips, specifically barbecue flavor. Pretzels also have the same effect. I think the salt makes me feel better.

5. Fill in the blank: That _____ was then; this _____ is now.
Teased hair and fluorescent colors; curls and black.

Bonus: Where were you and what were you doing on November 21, 2016?
I was off work for the week, so I probably spent the morning driving my daughter to school. I’m not sure how I spent the rest of the day. [Editor’s Note: See Jack’s Bonus answer]

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TMI Tuesday: October 31, 2017

Let’s do this thing – TMI Tuesday.

1. What do you think about when you’re alone in your car?
Sex. Stuff I have to do. Where I’m driving to. Sometimes I try to clear my mind and enjoy the silence.

2. What advice do you have for your previous lover?
Advice I’d give them now? Or advice I’d have given them before we met? If the former, I’d probably advise them to give me a call because I’m still as hot and fuckable as I was then. If the latter, I’d probably advise them to run like hell before I ruin their lives.

3. What inspires you?
These days, almost nothing. I hate to say it, but that’s a big part of the reason I’ve done so little with this blog of late. I’m in a creative slump. Non-blog writing has suffered as well – I spent the better part of the day hammering out a NaNoWriMo outline and didn’t make nearly as much progress as I’d like to have made – and non-writing creativity has also slowed.

4. If you were to get rid of one person in your life, who would it be and why?
I don’t think there’s anyone I’d get rid of, really. There are very few people actually in my life. I don’t have many friends who I see socially, and there aren’t many blood relations to whom I consider myself close. I’ve got my parents, of course, and people who follow me on Twitter probably know I’ve mused about getting rid of them, but I never will. There’s my wife and daughter, and I’m not likely to disown either of them. I’ve got a couple lovers who are geographically so far away that I’d desperately like to see them more, not less.

5. How do you cope when your level of sexual desire doesn’t match your partners?
This is actually an ongoing issue for me. Depression has essentially killed Jill’s sex drive, whereas my own is about as active as it’s ever been, maybe moreso. I want sex literally always – emotional intimacy too – but Jill does not. It’s a horrendous situation that has shaken me to my very core, and it’s unlikely to improve anytime soon. As for how I cope, I find that equal parts self-loathing and masturbation sometimes help.

Bonus: Are you single, why? Are you married, why?
I’m married. Because I found someone with whom I wanted to spend the rest of my life, but did not want to do so exclusively.

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TMI Tuesday: August 22, 2017

After this week’s TMI Tuesday you may say, “Get out of my head!”

We’re back!  As stated on this week’s Sinful Sunday, our blog was down for the first couple weeks of the month.  Additionally answering this week’s questions completely slipped my mind, which is why it’s being posted at 8:30 PM on Tuesday, and why Jill is unable to participate.

1. For you, can sex be separated from love?
Absolutely. I often have sex that doesn’t involve love, and I love people who I may not ever be sexual with, or even for whom I may not have sexual feelings. When I have sex with my wife, it may be an expression of love though it’s usually just sex. (I am pretty good at compartmentalizing.) I don’t even necessarily feel that sex is better when it overlaps with love, though it certainly may be. It’s just that the two don’t have to overlap at all.

2. Can sex be separated from caring?
It can, though this isn’t my preference. For a number of reasons, I would rather never have sex with someone I’m not sure I like. Part of it is that some manner of emotional connection – not even saying feelings, just a connection – makes me feel more secure. Additionally I prefer to know who the other person is and what they’re about. I’m pretty good at sex and tend to put everything I have into making the experience pleasurable; I would hate to find out after I gave my partner a mind-blowing chain of G-spot orgasms (with clit stimulation!) that she voted for Trump.

3. Men:  Does sex seem to be something that you can never get enough of and are constantly seeking or thinking about?
Yes. I’ve written about this extensively on the blog. Sex is my primary motivator for many of the decisions I’ve made throughout my life. Whether to go out on a Friday night? What courses to study in college? What hobbies to cultivate? Which geeky T-shirt to wear? All of these decisions were made along the lines of “Which of these options will get me laid.” As I’ve come to terms with being poly, however, I’ve realized that I’m also motivated by making different kinds of connections, albeit ones that will include sex.

4. Women: Is sex secondary to intimacy, physical closeness, and commitment?
Moving right along…

5. Who is more discriminating in choosing sexual partners–you or your significant other?
My wife seems to be. Certainly in terms of choosing partners outside our relationship. She is more selective than I am, and I suspect she has exacting standards whereas I tend to be attracted to and interested in nearly anyone who is attracted to and interested in me. That is not to say that I will necessarily have sex with anyone who fits that criteria, just that I don’t chase women who seemingly have no interest.

Bonus: Who is more likely to take on additional sexual partners, you or your significant other?
I am. My wife currently has one extracurricular sexual partner of whom I am aware. I, on the other hand, have a small handful of wonderful women who have been so amazing as to consider me worthy of seeing them naked, and yes, I’m always looking for another.

How to play TMI Tuesday: Copy the above TMI Tuesday questions to your webspace (i.e., a blog). Answer the questions there, then leave a comment below, on this blog post, so we’ll all know where to read your responses. Please don’t forget to link to tmituesdayblog from your website!