For Formspring Friday, favorite sexual position?
Jack’s Answer
I know what you’re thinking. You’re expecting that my favorite position is some sort of sexual configuration achievable only by contortionists and professional circus acrobats. You’re guessing that I prefer to have sex in an exotic position right out of the Kama Sutra, something along the lines of the Galloping Lotus or the Farting Hermit Crab. You guess, based on the amount of self-aggrandizement that I do here and on Twitter, that I would rather have sex in a manner hardly conducive to orgasm or even pleasure just for the sheer bragging rights. A position that allows penetration at the most precarious of angles, and requires that both Jill and I stand on, at most, one foot. I’m talking about the kind of position that prevents bloodflow to the extremities, or for that matter the brain.
Well, this will probably come as a shock, but I consider missionary to be my favorite position. Sure, some think of it as boring and unimaginative, and others take issue with the religious undertones of its name. But its etymology has been all but debunked, and I opine that missionary position – much like any sexual act – is what you make of it. Why do I like missionary so much? Well, the most obvious reason is that I enjoy the face-to-face intimacy. Yeah, I’m a girl. What of it? Additionally, I appreciate being able to kiss and touch Jill in this position. Her body is open and available to me. I can finger her clit, or suck her breasts. I can look into her eyes, exchange dirty talk with her, and behold her expression and feel her breath on my face as she climaxes. I love how deep I get, especially if I pull Jill’s ass onto my knees and raise her feet onto my chest or shoulders.
Missionary may not be the flashiest sexual position out there. For some, it may carry an unwanted association of male dominance. For others, middle American Howard-and-Marion-Cunningham whitebread values. For still others, it’s just not exciting enough. But I enjoy this position. And I don’t know that I’ve necessarily enjoyed it quite as much when I didn’t have the same emotional connection with my partner as I do with Jill. The missionary position makes the most of our natural symmetry, and allows us closeness in a way that doggy style or reverse cowgirl simply do not.
Jill’s Answer
This was a difficult question for me to answer. While I knew right away which position I would name as my favorite, I really wanted to throw in a disclaimer and make clear that there really aren’t any positions that I don’t like. I enjoy all of the more familiar sexual positions, and am open to trying any not-so-familar ones. There are some which are difficult to achieve or sustain, or which are fun but make orgasm difficult. But I don’t know if I’ve ever been able to blame bad sex on the position.
With that out of the way, my favorite position is doggy style. There are many reasons why I prefer doggy style over spooning, cowgirl, or even missionary. I find that Jack’s cock penetrates me the deepest in this position, and the angle is usually just right to stimulate my G-spot. Sometimes Jack will reach around and finger my clit while his cock is hitting my G-spot. That sends me over the edge quickly, and I usually have more orgasms than I can count. And if he manages to hit my G-spot and finger my clit while simultaneously sucking on my neck, or tongue-kissing me? Not only are we going to have to change the sheets, but we might have to flip the mattress over too.
Part of what I enjoy about doggy style is that it’s less personal than missionary or cowgirl. Of course I love the sweetness and the romance of looking into Jack’s eyes when we have sex. But sometimes I just want him to grab my hips, pull my hair, and pound into me like a jackhammer.
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Both S and I really like missionary as well. It is by far her favorite position. As sex bloggers, I guess we think we have to be more outrageous, but tried and true have gotten us through thousands of years, so why mess with something that’s broken, right?
Interesting takes on both positions! Great thing about both is the amount of variety you can actually get.
~Soren
Jack – you know, sometimes, I feel like there’s a reason things are as popular/mainstream as they are. Missionary is the default sex position because it is comfortable, because bodies fit together that way, because you can look into your partner’s eyes.
So glad there are people out there still willing to admit that YES – missionary fucking rocks.
Jill – doggy style rocks too. Especially with his hand in my hair. Hell yes. Grrrowl.
Both are very good, well thought out and well explained answers.
We do missionary most often, because the knee keeps us from doggy style. Stupid knee…
I like both positions, but I’m going to have to go with Jill on this one.
“But sometimes I just want him to grab my hips, pull my hair, and pound into me like a jackhammer. ” – YES! I know right!