This week’s TMI Tuesday consist of questions pulled from various TMI Tuesday posts from the year 2010. If you played with us back then and already answered these questions, feel free to reproduce your answers. It’s fine, there are a lot of new TMI Tuesday players. Of course, things have changed over time so you could give all new answers to the questions, too.
The link after the question, is the URL of the blogger that created that TMI Tuesday question(s).
[Note: For the sake of clarity and ease of commenting, we have taken the initiative of numbering the questions.]
Jack’s Answers
1. November 23, 2010 – Have you ever shared sleeping accommodations with someone of the opposite sex without anything steamy happening? (www.playfullyyours.blogspot.com)
We answered this exact question on September 15, 2009, which is more than a year before it was originally posted, apparently. My answer, at the time, was as follows:
Yes. As a young child – age ten and younger – I would frequently sleep over the homes of female friends. Hell, Jill and I sometimes sleep in the same bed without having sex. I guess that counts.
Now, some sixteen months later, my answer is pretty much the same. Once in a very great while, our daughter has slept in our bed. I’m pretty sure we’ve never enjoyed any hanky-panky while she was asleep beside us. Additionally, I occasionally fall asleep with our daughter while putting her to bed, and obviously nothing steamy occurs, you sick, sick bastards.
2. November 9, 2010 – When it comes to swinging or partner swapping, which would excite you more, watching or being watched? (virtualsin.wordpress.com)
I’m equal parts voyeur and exhibitionist. From past experience with monogamous group sex (i.e. “same-room”), I know that I am equally excited by watching another couple as by another couple watching us. I presume that the same would be true if we were swapping partners.
3. November 2, 2010 – Would you vote for a candidate caught in a sex scandal?
It depends first and foremost on the candidate’s positions on the issues, and then on the nature of the scandal. I guess the sort of sex scandals that might preclude me from voting for someone are such that the candidate would be subject to criminal prosecution, and thus likely no longer running. In other words, it would take some sort of nonconsensual sexual abuse to shake my confidence in a candidate for whom I was already considering voting. But a candidate who’d picked up a sex worker or, more likely, had an extramarital affair, would still have my vote provided that he or she had a sensible stance on the issues that matter to me.
In other words, not these guys.
4. October 11, 2010 – Do you masturbate to porn, and if so, what is your favorite genre? (virtualsin.wordpress.com)
Yes, I masturbate to porn. However, I don’t do it anywhere near as often as I would like. There was a time when I masturbated to porn on a regular basis, sometimes several times a day depending on my schedule and my living situation. I enjoy masturbation, and while I highly value my own very fertile imagination, few things beat porn for visual stimulation. Lately, however, I find myself masturbating to porn substantially less than I did just two years ago. The reasons for this are numerous, but paramount amongst them is the fact that having a small child in the house means I lack both the time and the privacy for masturbation. If I manage to get myself off three times in a single week, it’s worthy of note. Additionally, when I do masturbate, I’m probably more likely to be reading a sex blog, perusing a friend’s Moby album, or chatting, and I’m certain that this is not my definition of “porn”. As for the genre I prefer, I do my best to stay away from mainstream pro porn, as much of what’s being cranked out these days is just not my speed. As I get older and, I’d like to think, more sophisticated, I can no longer identify with vacuous, lab-created nineteen-year-olds of preposterous, Barbie-doll-like proportions. To fully enjoy porn, I require women who resemble actual human beings, the sort I might encounter on an afternoon walk or a trip to the grocery store. To me, this is infinitely sexier than a woman with impossibly perfect legs perched on rickety seventy-two-inch designer heels with breasts larger than the heads of the two men who are about to double-penetrate her. Therefore, whenever possible, I prefer to watch porn that is produced outside the studio system, whether by smaller companies, or private individuals.
5. September 7, 2010 – What are three mistakes someone could make on the first date with you that would automatically make you turn down a second date with them? (www.pleasure-principle-hedone.blogspot.com)
We answered this question on October 27, 2009, once again well in advance of this question’s cited original posting. At the time, I listed the following:
a. Texting or taking phone calls during the date.
b. Spending the entire evening bashing men in general.
c. Treating it like anything but a first date (i.e. no talk of marriage, please).
Additionally, in a September 2011 edition of TMI Tuesday, we were asked about red flags that a date could exhibit. These include:
Little red flags: Showing up late without explanation (if we’re meeting someplace), talking ad nauseum about her ex. If we’re at a movie, talking during the movie or laughing obnoxiously/at inappropriate points. Medium red flags: Treating waitstaff poorly, kicking puppies. If we’re at a movie, answerinig a cell phone call. Large red flags: Attempted or successful murder. If we’re at a movie, attempting to record the movie for the purposes of piracy.
No, no, no. I said “RED flag.”
In all seriousness, mistreating waitstaff is a pretty glaring red flag for me. The way your date treats the individuals he or she encounters while out with you is an indication of how he or she will treat you. I am highly unlikely to consider a person who interacts in a superior or demeaning manner with servicepeople a suitable long-term partner. Additionally, one who displays values contrary to my own, particularly bigoted ones, is unlikely to win my undying devotion. Everyone’s entitled to his or her opinion, but expecting me to fall in love with you after you let loose with a racist or homophobic tirade? Dream on. The third thing is failing to focus on me. Yeah, that sounds self-centered and needy, but if you’re on a date with me, you’ll need to put your phone on silent and forget about it – something I have most certainly already done – and refrain from talking at length about your ex and how he would have ordered the exact same thing that I did.
Bonus: Is your sex drive in park, neutral or over-drive. Explain.
As should be apparent to anyone who follows this blog or my Twitter feed, my sex drive is enormous. For the purposes of this question, I am tempted to say that it is in overdrive, as the implication is that my sex drive is in high gear, and at any rate, “park” and “neutral” most definitely do not suit me. However, overdrive traditionally refers to a mechanism that enables a car to cruise for potentially long periods while reducing power and thus minimizing wear on the engine. Cruising? Reduced power? This isn’t me at all. Therefore I am going to deviate from the supplied answers and liken my sex drive to something like this:
Jill’s Answers
1. November 23, 2010 – Have you ever shared sleeping accommodations with someone of the opposite sex without anything steamy happening? (www.playfullyyours.blogspot.com)
The last time we answered this question, I said:
Of course. Usually this happens (or used to happen) out of necessity. Sharing a hotel room, sharing a spare bed, etc. I can’t remember the last time I found myself in bed with a man who wasn’t Jack.
I’m pretty sure nothing’s changed since then.
2. November 9, 2010 – When it comes to swinging or partner swapping, which would excite you more, watching or being watched? (virtualsin.wordpress.com)
I don’t know that either one would excite me more than the other. I get really turned on when I watch others have sex, and I get really turned on when someone is watching me. Doing both simultaneously excites me more than either one by itself.
3. November 2, 2010 – Would you vote for a candidate caught in a sex scandal?
If he or she was the sort of candidate I would have voted for anyway, a sex scandal probably wouldn’t stop me. Maybe if the candidate was guilty of a crime like child molestation or sexual harassment, it would make me think twice. I would also have to consider this candidate’s opponent(s). If it’s a choice between a sexual abuser and a serial killer, I’ll vote for the first guy.
Not a suitable presidential candidate.* Also the second Gacy reference on the blog since Saturday.
4. October 11, 2010 – Do you masturbate to porn, and if so, what is your favorite genre? (virtualsin.wordpress.com)
Yes, I do masturbate to porn. I love watching group sex, especially threesomes. I love watching threesomes almost as much as I love participating in them. I also love watching oral sex. So hot. Basically, I’m good with anything until the spit starts flying. Seriously, what’s with all the spitting in porn these days? I don’t mind a little incidental saliva when people are kissing or during oral sex. But you’ve got women spitting on guys’ cocks, guys spitting on women’s pussies and assholes, and women spitting on each other. What a turn-off.
How do YOU like it, motherfucker?
5. September 7, 2010 – What are three mistakes someone could make on the first date with you that would automatically make you turn down a second date with them? (www.pleasure-principle-hedone.blogspot.com)
When I answered this question the first time, I said:
a. Being too self-focused
b. Demonstrating bad hygiene or manners
c. Talking at length about his ex
My biggest turn-off is bad hygiene, especially body odor. I wouldn’t want to suffer through this under any circumstances but especially if it’s a dinner date. Rudeness and bad manners should be their own thing, and not lumped in with bad hygiene, so that’s my second one. The third is general distraction: Spending too much time (or any time) fiddling with his cell phone, staring at other women, or otherwise not focusing on me. When I answered this question before, I went with “Being too self-focused”, but that’s missing the point. Not only should he not be focused on himself, he should be focused on me.
Bonus: Is your sex drive in park, neutral or over-drive. Explain.
I don’t know if it’s because we’re blogging and tweeting more, and therefore sex is all around us, or if it’s because there’s no guarantee that we’ll be able to have sex when the mood strikes us, but lately it’s definitely in overdrive.
When this represents our respective sex drives, just shoot us.
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*Unless he’s running against Santorum.
My first date deal breakers are very similar to yours, especially being rude to waitstaff. I’ve been a waitress myself, and surprisingly the women on dates were often very degrading. I always wondered what they were trying to prove…
Anyway, great answers, I enjoyed reading them!
Jack!
the phone thing on the turn off part! awesome…I did that when I wasn’t interested in the guy! so that means it worked!!! haha, never went for a second date although he called!
Jill
Bad Hygiene – so with you on that!
Love the answers!!! as always!
Aluv
I’m not playing this week but that doesn’t mean that I won’t read yours. Fantastic and comprehensive answers as always! I enjoy that one set of answers is from a male and the other a female. Can I perhaps borrow one of you to be my writing elf? In return I’ll grant all your sex wishes lol.
I love coming here and seeing you both reply. Jack, as a woman with naturally large breasts and stretch marks I loathe porn. When I was younger, yeah, but now when I realize how fake it is and I am with Jill on the spitting. LUBE people they make it it even comes in flavors.. USE IT. I am definitely in over drive.. now if I could only get my partner on my page.. sighs.
i once entered a same room with a samer, waited two hours for him/her to respond again…
that bread is too ARFing pretty to eat
loving the whole clever caption thing, you’re on to something here
I concur with both of your original answers for the first date. I hindsight constantly messing with phones should have been one of my answers.
GREAT answers. I applaud both of your answers to the porn question. In fact, I clapped so much and for so long, my hands hurt! Your date deal breakers are good answers as well, as are your sex scandal ones.
Happy TMI Tuesday!
I love the male and female perspective on some of your answers. It’s always nice to see both sides of things.
As usual I love you guys!
both answers to #5 were great ones..totally forgot about the “texting”..i guess i wouldn’t be asked out again 🙁 lol @ Jill, I had a friend who talked about his X, every time we got together. I finally told him..”fuck off”
I love the pictorials for both of your sex drive answers! 😀
I think one of the reasons I don’t watch porn is not having the privacy to do so. The other being that I can’t relate to the bored facial expressions of many of the porn actors I’ve seen.
~Kazi xxx
When I first saw the spitting in porn I about died! I’m sorry that’s what lube is for. Spitting is gross. (sorry if that’s your thing…continue to enjoy).
The spitting snake pic was too too hilarious!
Cheers! to your sex life being in overdrive 🙂
-H
Great answers, being late without an explanation is the worst! We really do have very similar views on lots of things don’t we?