This week’s TMI Tuesday questions are on a subject near and dear to our hearts (and some other body parts, too). It’s all about SEX!…Yes, again.
Jack’s Answers
1. What is your sexual personality?
a. The Controller – initiating sex, twisting your lover into positions you want, and driving scene play by play
b. Sex Slave – You love to be used and at the mercy of your lover. You don’t initiate but follow and do as you are told. You love to be used.
c. Daredevil – Sexual adventure and sexual thrills are what you are all about. You get off on the risk factor.
d. Subdued – Sex is a necessary part of the relationship so you are available when needed.
I’m not crazy about labels or about the notion that my entire sexual persona can be tidily summed up. But I can rule out (d), Subdued, as that’s not me at all. Yes, sex is a necessary part of the relationship. But available when needed? Pshaw. You know what else is available when needed? A bottle of drain cleaner you keep under your kitchen sink. And (b), Sex Slave, isn’t me either. While I have no problem being used sexually, and I certainly don’t always insist on initiating sex, I really don’t identify with the “slave” type. I think there’s a bit of (c), Daredevil, in me, as I enjoy the thrill factor and I do find the risk factor exciting. However, I don’t get off on it; I am more than capable of achieving orgasm without having someone bent over a police car. Therefore, the choice that is the best fit is (a) The Controller. I tend to be dominant, though I don’t really identify as such. But the thought of moving and physically manipulating Jill from position to position, perhaps manhandling her a bit, is a tremendous turn-on – though admittedly nowhere near as hot as actually doing it.
2. How many times have you sneaked away from party guests to have sex in another part of the party venue. Where did you sneak to? Were you ever caught? For example, at a wedding reception you sneaked to have sex in the coat room. At a party, you sneaked to have sex in a bathroom or closet.
I’ve done this a few times, actually. Once, while attending a Halloween party at a hotel, Jill and I found ourselves bored and decided to wander an upstairs floor. We made out, and I fingered her. Maybe it’s not actual sex, but my fingers smelled like pussy afterwards, and I say it counts. The first time this sort of thing happened I was probably eighteen or nineteen, and I hooked up with someone at a house party. We snuck off to a guest bedroom, and fucked doggy style against the bed. It wasn’t the hottest sex I’d ever had up to that point, but the circumstances, including the anonymity and the threat of discovery, made it really exciting. When I was in my early twenties, I went to a party with an ex-girlfriend. We were completely platonic at this point, but we still had sex in a guest bathroom. I wasn’t expecting it, and now that I think about it she may have been trying to distract me from some girl I was hitting on at the party. Later in my twenties, while dating someone whose family would regularly host dinner parties, we would occasionally find ourselves in her room – she still lived with her parents – banging away merrily while the party continued downstairs without us.
This is the only party that doesn’t make me think of sex.
3. Your sex partner that you are mad crazy for has requested you do one of the following, which one would you grant consent to do:
a. Bondage/light restraint with your hands, legs tied while having sex
b. A sexual spanking that leaves light marks
c. Record the two of you having sex
d. Have sex in a mirrored room where you can see yourselves having sex from every angle
I’d probably be down for any of this, so long as it was the desire of a partner I trusted, i.e. Jill. In other words, I’m probably not going to let some casual hookup I barely know tie me up. Sorry, I know I said I enjoy the risk, but that seems a bit much. Spanking isn’t really my thing either; sure, I enjoy giving them but I see no real thrill in being the recipient. As for recording us having sex and having sex in a mirrored room, we have done variations on both of these, but if I had to choose one favorite, it would likely be (c), as I love to watch.
4. Do you act out your sexual fantasies (select one)? Why?
a. I act out all of my fantasies.
b. I act out many of my fantasies.
c. I act out some of my fantasies.
d. I act out very few of my fantasies.
e. I don’t act out any of my fantasies.
f. I don’t have any fantasies.
I think I’ll go with (b) or (c). Anyone who’s been reading this blog or following me on Twitter must know that (f) is incorrect, as I most certainly do have many fantasies. I certainly haven’t acted out all of them; in order to complete my sexual bucket list most if not all of the women reading this post will have to have had sex with me, and I don’t think that’s very feasible. So I don’t think I am likely to act out every last one of my fantasies; (a) is out. As for (e), I’ve definitely acted out some of my fantasies, enough that (d) is also incorrect. I don’t know whether “I act out many of my fantasies” or “I act out some of my fantasies” is more accurate, but suffice it to say that all the big ones have been crossed off the list.
Well, almost all of them.
5. How important is sex in your life (select one)?
a. I could hardly survive without it.
b. It is very important.
c. It is somewhat important.
d. I could live without it.
e. If it were up to me, sex wouldn’t even exist!
At the risk of sounding like a sex addict, I’m inclined to go with (a). That’s probably not true, though; despite my love of sex, I imagine I could survive without it, though my quality of life would be far from optimal. A more accurate answer would be (b), as sex is extremely important to me, falling just shy of food, water, and shelter on the basic needs scale. In fact, sex is so important to me that it’s often alarming. Not because I worry that I’ll die if I were to somehow be deprived of sex long-term, or even because I worry about the lengths to which I’ll go to get it. I think it’s alarming to me because I suspect that I’ll be viewed negatively by friends, family, colleagues, etc., were it to become public knowledge just how important sex is to me. Inwardly, though, I imagine people would be envious about our sex life. I think that sex is very important to most of humanity. Unfortunately there are countless people out there who would likely answer (d) or (e), whether due to inability to be honest about their enjoyment of a very normal biological function or various social or religious attitudes. In fact, I’m pretty sure (e) is a Rick Santorum quote.
Even though he’s out of the race, I can’t stop making jokes at this man’s expense.
Bonus: Finish the following phrase.
Sex is ______________ .
…not a crime.
Jill’s Answers
1. What is your sexual personality?
a. The Controller – initiating sex, twisting your lover into positions you want, and driving scene play by play
b. Sex Slave – You love to be used and at the mercy of your lover. You don’t initiate but follow and do as you are told. You love to be used.
c. Daredevil – Sexual adventure and sexual thrills are what you are all about. You get off on the risk factor.
d. Subdued – Sex is a necessary part of the relationship so you are available when needed.
This is a really difficult question for me to answer, because I don’t think of my sexuality in such simple terms. It’s definitely not (d), but I can relate to aspects of (a), (b), and (c). Sometimes I want sex and I want it right now. I just jump on top of Jack, take control, and show him exactly what I want, where I want to be touched, kissed, etc. In that respect, I am definitely (a) The Controller. Other times, though, I want to be dominated. I love it when Jack throws me over the couch or on the bed. I love it when he’s on top of me, holding my hands down while he fucks me hard and deep. I love it when he pulls my hair while he fucks me doggy style. I love it when he holds my head and fucks my throat. In that respect, I’m definitely (b) Sex Slave. One of my favorite things to do during a long car ride is masturbate or give Jack a hand job or head. If there’s a chance that a trucker might get an eyeful, it’s even more of a turn-on for me. I love to flash Jack when we’re in public, and I love to have sex outside. In that respect, I’m definitely (c) Daredevil.
You know we can’t complete a TMI Tuesday post without multiple references to geek culture.
2. How many times have you sneaked away from party guests to have sex in another part of the party venue. Where did you sneak to? Were you ever caught? For example, at a wedding reception you sneaked to have sex in the coat room. At a party, you sneaked to have sex in a bathroom or closet.
I don’t think I’ve done this nearly enough. The only time I did anything like this before I met Jack was when
I made out with a guy in his bathroom during a party. We weren’t caught, which is a good thing because my boyfriend was at the party too. When Jack and I were dating, we wandered out of a Halloween party and fooled around in one of the hallways of the hotel where it was held. As far as Jack and I know we weren’t caught on any security cameras. And when our daughter was a newborn, there were a couple occasions where we had gone to family parties and I went into a bedroom or other private area to breastfeed. The baby fell asleep in the middle of it, and I texted Jack to come into the room. A couple times I just gave him head, but most of the time we actually had sex. We never got caught, as the rooms usually had locks on the doors. But not always. We’re so naughty!
3. Your sex partner that you are mad crazy for has requested you do one of the following, which one would you grant consent to do:
a. Bondage/light restraint with your hands, legs tied while having sex
b. A sexual spanking that leaves light marks
c. Record the two of you having sex
d. Have sex in a mirrored room where you can see yourselves having sex from every angle
I’ve done all of these with Jack, and I enjoy all of them. I love it when he ties me to the bed and fucks me or even just licks me to orgasm. I like the loss of control and I enjoy giving in to him. I’ve only recently started enjoying spanking, and although I don’t think I’m as into it as many of our blogging friends, it can be very exciting during doggy style. As I am equal parts exhibitionist and voyeur, I like being recorded and I like watching or listening to the recording afterwards. Jack often records my orgasms on his phone, and while we think it’s hot I might be too self-conscious to post them on our blog. I always worry that I sound weird or unsexy when I cum. As for mirrors, many of the houses we’ve lived in have had mirrored closet doors, including our current house. In fact, our Blogger profile picture and our Twitter avatars were taken in mirrored closet doors.
We have even had sex in a canopy bed with a mirror overhead. That’s the hottest, as I love watching Jack eat and fuck me. So if I had to pick one of those four, it would probably be (d), have sex in a mirrored room.
Be still my heart.
4. Do you act out your sexual fantasies (select one)? Why?
a. I act out all of my fantasies.
b. I act out many of my fantasies.
c. I act out some of my fantasies.
d. I act out very few of my fantasies.
e. I don’t act out any of my fantasies.
f. I don’t have any fantasies.
I’ll choose (c), I act out some of my fantasies. To name just a few, I have had sex in public, I have had sex in a swimming pool, I have had sex on cam, I have had same-room sex, and I have had a threesome with another woman. I have not yet acted out my MFM fantasy.
5. How important is sex in your life (select one)?
a. I could hardly survive without it.
b. It is very important.
c. It is somewhat important.
d. I could live without it.
e. If it were up to me, sex wouldn’t even exist!
Sex is so important that (a) I could hardly survive without it. I think I would survive if I couldn’t have sex or wasn’t having sex for whatever reason. But I can’t imagine that my life would be as wonderful as it is now. It really is a vital part of my life, and essential for my physical, mental, and emotional well-being. I guess that I wouldn’t necessarily have to have penetrative sex, though I would miss it terribly if I wasn’t having it. But I would still need some form of physical intimacy, whether kissing, oral sex, or caressing at the very least. I need to be touched.
Not by just anyone though.
Bonus: Finish the following phrase.
Sex is ______________ .
amazing! I love all aspects of it, and all kinds of sex, from soft, slow, and gentle to hard, fast, and rough. I just love sex.
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I love the answers! Jack #2 haha “maybe its not actual sex, but my fingers smelled like pussy!
and the way you both incorporate the pictures as well!!! hehe!!
Wonderful TMI!!
Hello do you know how many times my hubby has gone to work with the smell of my pussy still in his mustache. Yeah he is kinky like that. I have a fantasy that involves you and Jill FYI.. and yes I just said that out loud. Jill is absolutely breathtaking and I love her sensuality. Jack your sense of humor cracks me up and the fact that you are still hot after Jill is a definite turn on..I love the pictures ya’ll incorporate into these they crack me up.
FEMALE BOBA FETT FTW!!! He is my fav Star Wars character and I so want the girl in that pic to come kidnap me and use me… ok enough of my fantasy, this is your blog.
Really enjoyed your answers. I think Jill and I see eye to eye on a lot of these.
Boba Fett with tits: *organ blown*
Chaplin lost in mirrors: *mind blown*
Oscar the Grouch: *heart melted*
@Jack:
“I am more than capable of achieving orgasm without having someone bent over a police car. ”
I laughed out loud at that .
2. “We made out, and I fingered her.”
That turns me on…the thought and the act. And it most certainly is sex.
5. I so had you down as “A:”
-H
@Jill:
“I love it when he’s on top of me, holding my hands down while he fucks me hard and deep. I love it when he pulls my hair while he fucks me doggy style. I love it when he holds my head and fucks my throat. ”
Hotness!
2. ” We’re so naughty!”
Yes, YES! you are.
These words made me wet: “just licks me to orgasm.”
#3 your entire answer is so freakin’ hot…I’m aroused…and moist…and throbbing…
Your pics and comments were funny.
-H
I always feel like a slacker after reading your TMI posts, you are so wonderfully thorough and inventive in answering and illustrating!
My favorite part was Jack saying “in order to complete my sexual bucket list most if not all of the women reading this post will have to have had sex with me” – feasible or not, I have to respect the ambition!
I always enjoy reading your responses.
To be fair, a lot of us enjoy continuing to make fun of Rick Santorum, and gratuitously Google his name from time to time so that Dan Savage’s pages come up first.
I mean. What.
I think I need to go on more long car rides now. Thanks Jill!
As always I love the accompanying pictures (I grok the geek! ;)) and your thoughtful explanations of all your answers. We all definitely agree on the “can’t live without sexual expression” 😀
~Kazi xxx
I agree with you, Jack, that for question #1 it was hard to have to pigeon-hole myself into one of those descriptions – there’s just so much more. Great captions to your pictures, as always!
I swear I could read your blog all day long! Fun answers to TMI plus thinking about both of you answering them just makes MY fantasies run wild!
Great answers, I had a feeling Jack would go with A on #5. I’ve never seen the Boba Fett woman’s costume before, now that’s something I’ll think about, that is great! Loved all of the answers as always, I like how Jill explains how her moods move her between A-C and #1.