From the kinky mind of Cara Sutra.
Jack’s Answers
1. What’s the kinkiest thing about you, either mentally or physically?
For me, sex is ideally a social activity. Don’t get me wrong, my sex life with Jill is amazing, easily the best I’ve ever had. But my incessant desire for variety means that throwing a few other people into the mix – whether just watching and being watched or actively participating – will result in good times.
Cheapest joke of the week.
2. Do you have any fetishes? If so, what are they?
I don’t know that I consider it a fetish, exactly, but I am attracted to women’s feet. I’m not so attracted to feet that I require seeing them in order to achieve arousal or orgasm, but I’d say that a woman with nice-looking feet turns me on nearly as much as a woman with attractive breasts or a firm ass. Beyond that, I don’t believe I have any other fetishes, certainly not toward inanimate objects or specific sexual practices. Shoes? Nope. Cross-dressing? No. Leather? Uh-uh. Bondage? Nah.
3. Have you ever been spanked? Did you enjoy it? Tell us more…
Yes I have been spanked. No, I didn’t enjoy it. The circumstances involved me misbehaving in some fashion: Typical childhood stuff like stealing cookies or telling lies. Though the specifics are lost to time, I’m pretty sure that my mother, and not my father, was the one who administered the actual spanking.
4. Have you been tied up, or tied someone else up? Did you use rope or restraints?
I’m certain I’ve never been tied up, though I can vaguely recall being handcuffed by someone (not Jill) during sex. Clearly the experience wasn’t particularly memorable, and I want to say that it only happened once. I actually have no problem being handcuffed or otherwise restrained by a woman for whom such submission is a turn-on, provided I trust her. But I don’t get much out of it.
5. Would you classify yourself as more dominant, submissive, a switch or entirely vanilla?
I’m more dominant than I am submissive, though I can be somewhat submissive if the situation calls for it, or if it’s requested of me. I don’t think I’m sufficiently submissive to qualify as a switch, and I’m definitely not vanilla.
I’m not even crazy about vanilla ice cream.
6. What’s the kinkiest thing you’ve ever done?
Same-room sex, possibly? Yeah, it’s not all that wild in the grand scheme of things, but given that Jill and I are equal parts exhibitionist and voyeur, it’s something we enjoy on the very rare occasion that we can make it happen.
7. Have you been to a BDSM club? What was it like? If not, would you ever go to one?
We have been to a BDSM club, specifically Power Exchange in San Francisco. It was a fun experience, and we’d definitely return even though it wasn’t the kind of experience that completely satisfied our voyeur and exhibitionist tendencies. For starters, a more equitable ratio between males and females would have been nice. Rather than rehash the specifics, you can read all about it here.
It was a lot like this.
8. What’s your favourite fetish item or implement?
Does my cock count?
9. Favourite kinky clothing material?
I’m going to go with silk. Or maybe lace. I’m not so kinky that I associate clothing with kink, even though I’m aware that leather and latex, for example, are common. If I had to pick a favorite, though, it’d be something a bit more traditionally feminine. Silk and lace are two fabrics that I associate with Jill’s panties.
10. Thigh boots – love ‘em or hate ‘em?
I love thigh boots on Jill. She looks incredibly sexy wearing them, and I think they give her a lot of confidence. True story: The day she got them, we were out shopping together. She showed me the boots and asked if I thought she should get them. I asked her what she’d wear them with. She told me nothing. I bought them for her.
Now that I think of it, these don’t quite reach her thighs.
11. If you’re kinky, who knows about it? Do you tell people or is it a closely guarded secret?
Several of our friends know that we’re kinky, though very few know the extent of our (relative) kinkiness. Generally speaking the friends who know are those we feel we can trust implicitly, as discretion is very important to us and we wouldn’t want Jill’s parents, for example, finding out that we enjoy fisting.
12. What are your personal limits?
There are a lot of things that don’t turn me on, but which I would at least consider trying if Jill wasn’t into it. Fortunately, our sexual tastes seem to align nicely. My limits include anything involving pain, because that’s simply not something I am interested in receiving or inflicting; and poop/pee play, because that totally squicks me.
13. What’s your safeword and why did you choose that one?
Our usual safeword is “harder”. When things get too intense for Jill, she simply says the safeword and all activity stops. As you may have guessed, it can get confusing.
14. Which fetishes do you just really not get?
See #12.
Bonus: Complete this sentence: To me, Fetish, Kink and BDSM means…
Isn’t fetish some kind of Greek cheese?
Wocka wocka!
Jill’s Answers
1. What’s the kinkiest thing about you, either mentally or physically?
Probably my attraction to my sister-in-law, something I mentioned in last week’s TMI Tuesday. This is my brother’s wife, not Jack’s sister. She’s fun, sexy, and statuesque, with blonde hair, gorgeous blue eyes, and not only a sexy, tight ass that I envy, but a luscious pair of D-cup breasts that I’d love to get lost in. She’s also a great dancer, as she regularly proves at family weddings. Speaking of which, she was one of my bridesmaids at my own wedding, and I got to watch her change into her dress. So. Hot. I’m pretty sure she is unaware that I want to have sex with her, though I suppose it’s possible that she follows our blog and is reading this, has figured out that the co-author is her husband’s sister, and has determined that she is the sister-in-law who is being discussed.
2. Do you have any fetishes? If so, what are they?
Not really. I have quite a few very prominent turn-ons, but none of them are fetishes as I understand the term. If you have read this blog for awhile, you can probably say them along with me: I like to be watched. I like watching others. I like to be tied up, blindfolded, and spanked.
I also like breakfast in bed. Jack, how about it?
3. Have you ever been spanked? Did you enjoy it? Tell us more…
Did you read #2? Because I’m pretty sure I answered this one there.
4. Have you been tied up, or tied someone else up? Did you use rope or restraints?
I have been tied up. We have never used rope, but since the sash of my bathrobe is always close at hand (and because I’m not particularly interested in explaining rope burn to my colleagues, students, and the parents of my students), we use that. We have also used handcuffs and thumb cuffs.
5. Would you classify yourself as more dominant, submissive, a switch or entirely vanilla?
Although I can be dominant if the mood strikes me, I am mostly submissive. I absolutely love being on my knees, looking up at Jack as he fucks my throat, his hand tangled up in my long brown hair. I love it when my face is pushed down into the mattress and my hands are cuffed behind my back while he fucks me from behind. I love being manhandled and moved from position to position by a pair of strong hands. Whew! Gotta change my panties.
6. What’s the kinkiest thing you’ve ever done?
Probably have sex in front of a crowd of masturbating onlookers at a BDSM club.
7. Have you been to a BDSM club? What was it like? If not, would you ever go to one?
Once again, this question has already been answered.
8. What’s your favourite fetish item or implement?
There’s honestly not all that many to choose from! We have a lot of sex toys, but no paddles, floggers or clamps or anything. At the risk of sounding terribly vanilla, I think my favorite item is probably our handcuffs, but only by default.
9. Favourite kinky clothing material?
It’s a toss-up between leather (which is what my super sexy thigh boots are made of), or silk (which is what some of my favorite lingerie is made of).
10. Thigh boots – love ‘em or hate ‘em?
I get the feeling you’re not actually reading any of my answers, as I have already answered this question above. In case you can’t tell, I love my thigh boots! They’re fun to wear, and I feel sexy in them. I love the looks I get when I wear them out in public, and more than anything, I love getting fucked when I’m wearing my boots and nothing else.
11. If you’re kinky, who knows about it? Do you tell people or is it a closely guarded secret?
Except for a few extremely close and trusted friends, our kinky side is a closely guarded secret. Most of the people we know casually, as well as virtually everyone in our respective families, presumably have no idea that we’ve been to a sex club, that we have invited more than one individual into our bedroom, or that we maintain a blog for the purpose of sharing very intimate details of our sex lives.
They are also unaware of our penchant for cosplay, but that’s another story.
12. What are your personal limits?
As I mentioned before, I’m okay with being tied up or restrained, blindfolded, and spanked. I’m not into electric current, choking, wax play, blood play or anything that breaks skin, rape or simulated rape, watersports or coprophila, bestiality or anything involving children or any partner who is unable to give consent. As far as swinging goes I enjoy threesomes and monogamous group sex (also known as same-room sex). I am really into the idea of light swapping including oral as well. As far as full-swap goes, some days it’s something I really want to do, as there are a lot of guys I fantasize about and who I’d like to think I would have sex with given the opportunity (with Jack’s blessing, of course). On the other hand, some days I just can’t get past my vows. Stupid Catholic upbringing.
13. What’s your safeword and why did you choose that one?
Our BDSM experience is so limited that we don’t really need one. If I’m tied up and I tell Jack to untie me, he knows that it’s not part of the scene, and that I really need to be untied. When I’ve been restrained in the past, the absolute lack of movement was a concern, as it’s not something we do so often that I’m totally used to it. The only thing we do regularly for which a safeword might be a good idea is fisting. Fisting is something that requires a very deep level of trust, and which is very intense both physically and emotionally. A good fisting session can leave me in tears and shaking uncontrollably. But even when we’re fisting, no safeword is required. That’s a good thing, because I usually can’t speak when I’m having the kinds of orgasms that result. Jack is so in tune with my body, and pays such close attention to my movements and my sounds, that I know I’m in good hands. Or rather, that I have good hands in me.
Kind of like this.
14. Which fetishes do you just really not get?
I don’t get the very intense manner of flogging that results in breakage of skin. I guess I understand that for some it is a sexual release like any other, and I don’t judge consenting adults doing what they need to do for their own satisfaction. But deliberate harm isn’t really my thing.
Accidental harm, though? Huge turn-on.
Bonus: Complete this sentence: To me, Fetish, Kink and BDSM means…
…whatever you want it to mean.
How to play TMI Tuesday: Copy the above TMI Tuesday questions to your webspace (i.e., a blog). Answer the questions there, then leave a comment below, on this blog post, so we’ll all know where to read your responses. Please don’t forget to link to tmituesdayblog from your website!
* hot boots, hot boots!
* a chicken broke Fozzie’s heart, that’s why he became a comedian, to hold a (rubber) chicken in his hand again.
* sock puppets, hmmm, i’m thinking about my next TNH series…
* slipping on a banana peel is the ultimate sex fetish, take it from me.
Haha! I especially like both your bonus answers. Happy TMI Tuesday!
Love the boots, I have a hard time finding boots that I like cause I have these huge calves.. sighs. silk and lace definite turn ons, I am a mental freak lol.. I want someone with brains. I gave the same answer for safewords. He knows me by body language and reacts to that. I still haven’t done fisting and don’t think I could. I finally moved to WP so I have a new address for the naughty blog
Great answers…and I love the wocka wocka. Of course, the muppets might be a whole different kind of kink 😉
I had no idea that you were turned on by feet! How did I not know this? I am astounded I didn’t notice this.
Wow that pic of Jill in those boots and tights is very hot. My BF quite likes it as well.
LOVE THE BOOTS! Super sexy. I have a super cute pair of thigh boots that are actually flat. I get TONS of compliments and even though they are flat every time I wear them my husband practically attacks me.
Great post!
Thigh high or not, those boots are gorgeous and sexy as hell. Never take them off, never!
Enjoyed reading your answers, as usual. Lots of similar answers again this week =)
x
@Jack:
4. Baby let me tie you up, you’ll get plenty out of it. 😉
8. buwhahahaha!
10. “I asked her what she’d wear them with. She told me nothing.”
That’s why your wife is HOT!
Those boots look fab on Jill, and the hose really sex it up.
Only problem: the boots hide those calves that I love.
13. LOL
Bonus: You made me laugh out loud for sure.
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@Jill:
5. Dear gawd YES! ALL of that. Love it.
14. Heeheehee…love the graphic.
Have a great rest of the week sexies!
-H