What is your single most important tip for giving oral sex? The one thing that you think makes you great at giving. Also, what’s the one tip you would give a partner to get you off?

Jack’s Answer

Oral sex is one of my favorite things ever.  Not just to receive – though I certainly do enjoy receiving it – but also to give.  Going down on a woman is one of the most intimate, sexually exciting activities I can think of, but it’s also a lot of fun.  Getting up close and personal with her pussy is exhilarating, as is listening to her breathing and verbal cues as she approaches orgasm.  And the orgasm itself is most definitely the icing on the cake.

My most important tip  for giving oral sex?  That’s a tough one, because every woman is different.  What works for one person will not necessarily work for another.  In fact, one of the most exciting things about oral sex, or for that matter sex in general, with a new partner may very well be figuring out what works and what doesn’t.  Rather than listing a specific “move” that may or may not do the trick, I suggest learning what your partner enjoys, and what leads to orgasm, and do that.  Never leave her (or him, even) unsatisfied, even if that means moving aside and letting your partner take care of things.

The one tip that I would give a new partner who is determined to get me off is not to be afraid to use your hands.  That is not to say that I require hand usage, or even that it will necessarily make the oral sex better.  In fact, when being deep-throated, hand usage is pretty much impossible.  But in general I find that stroking and sucking together rarely fail to get me off.

Jill’s Answer

I love giving oral sex.  I have always admitted to being submissive, and I know that for many women giving head is a submissive act.  But while I love being on my knees, looking up at Jack wide-eyed as he feeds me his hard cock, and I love feeling his fingers tugging on my hair as he fucks my throat, there is something about giving head that is, for me at least, very dominant.  When I’m sucking cock, I usually feel like I am in total control.  Not always, though.  Sometimes I don’t want to be in control.  Sometimes I want to have control taken away from me.

My single most important tip for giving oral sex is to pay attention to your partner.  When I give Jack head, I notice that he gives off subtle cues, such as the sounds he makes and his body language.  Sometimes he is more vocal, and tells me exactly what he wants, or how much he enjoys what I am doing.  But other times he has to really concentrate on the pleasure he is receiving, and the only feedback I get is feeling him tense up and listening for changes in his breathing.  Fortunately, I have a lot of experience giving oral sex, especially to Jack, and I know exactly how to respond to these cues.

As for the one tip I would give a partner in order to get me off, it’s difficult to narrow down, but the main thing that never fails to make oral sex a memorable experience for me is when Jack (or whoever) gives me long, slow licks all over my pussy.  I enjoy having attention lavished on my clit, but that’s not the only spot that is receptive to stimulation.  As I get excited and react to these long, slow licks, I want the pace maintained.  I try not to react too much because I don’t want Jack to change the pace.  If it slows down or speeds up too much, it can throw me off and I have to get used to the totally new rhythm.  On the other hand, I want him to know that it’s working.  If I say, “Just like that”, or “Don’t stop”, he knows not to vary his pace or change what he’s doing.  If the pace does change, I can usually compensate by moving my body in sync with Jack’s tongue.

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