This week’s TMI Tuesday theme and questions come from Bi and Bi.
Jack’s Answers
1. Which do you enjoy more in bed, pain or pleasure?
Definitely pleasure. That’s not to say that I haven’t experimented with pain (as a recipient); in my younger days when I had no children and plenty of time, I would occasionally clamp a big black binder clip to my nipple during masturbation. It was kind of fun, it possibly being my first real sortie into the realm of kink, but the fact is it didn’t do much for me. And this is coming from a guy with really sensitive nipples. Seriously, it’s like there’s an air hose going from my nipples to my cock. If you’re ever in the same room as me, try it: Put your mouth on one of my nipples – you don’t even have to blow – and see if something doesn’t inflate.
2. Do you like being tickled during sex? Where?
No. Please don’t tickle me. Caress me, stroke me, kiss me, lick me, suck me. But there’s no need for tickles, thanks. I’m a firm believer that sex should be fun, and that laughter during sex is perfectly acceptable as long as it’s not at my expense. But I’m not a fan of being tickled, if only because I think there are a lot more useful things for my partner to do with her hands. Also, while I’ve never accidentally peed while being tickled, I’d hate for the first time to occur during sex.
3. Have you ever used feathers during sex?
Yes. Years ago, curious about fucking an emu, I broke into a local zoo after hours. I had made myself an intricate suit of feathers with which I thought I hoped to avoid raising the emu’s suspicions. Unfortunately the only feathers I had were synthetic ones from a down comforter, and the emu bolted. Turns out that they can run up to thirty miles per hour. Defeated, I headed to the penguin exhibit, figuring that he or she wouldn’t be able to get away. After all, the movie was called March of the Penguins, not Race of the Penguins. I selected a suitable-looking specimen, hopped into the exhibit, and got started. Unfortunately a zookeeper caught us – I mean, caught me – and I had to cast off my feather suit before hightailing it out of there.
Call me a wide-eyed optimist, but I was hoping we’d raise a family together.
4. Do you like to be blindfolded during sex? Why?
No, but all of my partners have all seemed to prefer it. And when a blindfold wasn’t readily available they all insisted that I fuck them from behind. Not sure why.
5. Have you ever used cold or heat as part of your sex play? What provided the cold or heat?
In my single days I was actually infamous for my tendency to incorporate intense cold into my sexual activity. The cold was provided by my failure to pay the heating bill.
6. Do you enjoy being spanked, giving spankings, or both?
Being spanked? No. Giving spankings? Yes. I’m sure someone with a background in psychology could successfully analyze why I’m not into receiving; perhaps it has something to do with a spanking-related trauma from my childhood, or maybe it’s because I’m too dominant to allow myself to be put in a submissive position for anyone, even my wife. But who cares? One thing I do know for sure is the reason that I like to spank Jill. It has nothing to do with the way her soft, supple ass feels against my hand. It has nothing to do with the excitement I derive from inflicting pain (note: I don’t derive excitement from inflicting pain) or even how turned on she gets from behind spanked. It has everything to do, however, with the fact that I am a stay-at-home Dad who does not spank his frequently disobedient child.
7. Do you have a safeword? Have you ever used it?
Yes, we have a safeword; it is “harder”.
Bonus: Tell us in 3-4 sentences the most painful or pleasurable sexual experience you have had.
Tough question to answer. With twenty years’ experience under my belt, most of it good, it’s difficult to narrow it down to just one most pleasurable experience. But I’m inclined to go with the most recent time Jill and I had sex, as it’s always very pleasurable and in being the most recent experience it’s still very fresh in my mind. As I write this on Monday, the most recent sex between Jill and I occurred on Sunday night.
Jill’s Answers
1. Which do you enjoy more in bed, pain or pleasure?
Definitely pleasure. I love to be kissed, touched, cuddled, caressed, and fucked. I love G-spot play. I’m not really into pain, beyond the occasional playful spanking, and even when I am restrained in a less-than-comfortable position it’s about the pleasure, not the pain.
2. Do you like being tickled during sex? Where?
No, I don’t like being tickled during sex. Tickling makes me jumpy, and in the context of a sexual experience I just don’t enjoy it. If something (or someone) tickles me during orgasm it can ruin it, and if it happens right before orgasm it can throw me off completely, forcing me back almost to square one. I am a very ticklish person, and at times in the middle of sex, especially oral sex, Jack accidentally touches me in a way that registers in my brain as tickling, and it gets me off of my game a little bit. The closest I get to enjoying tickling as part of our sex play is when Jack sucks my toes. This really straddles the line between intense pleasure and tickling. Fortunately Jack knows what he’s doing, and tends to land on the “intense pleasure” side rather than the “tickling” side.
3. Have you ever used feathers during sex?
Not that I can recall. I know we’ve done some tactile play while I was blindfolded, but I don’t recall Jack using a feather as one of the items.
Doesn’t count. The feathers aren’t real.
4. Do you like to be blindfolded during sex? Why?
Though it’s not something I need to experience every single time, yes, I enjoy being blindfolded during sex. There is a lot of excitement in not knowing where Jack is going to touch or what he is going to do. The next lick or suck could be going literally anywhere! Plus it makes me feel vulnerable to put on a blindfold, especially if I am also restrained in some way, or if I have other senses cut off as well. That requires a lot of trust, and strengthens the bond I have with Jack. Another exciting aspect of being blindfolded involves fantasy. Those lips, those hands, and that cock could be anybody’s.
5. Have you ever used cold or heat as part of your sex play? What provided the cold or heat?
We have used cold as part of our sex play, usually in the form of ice cubes. Most of the time Jack sucks on the ice for awhile, drastically bringing down the temperature of his mouth. Then he sucks my nipples or my clit, or licks my pussy with an ice-cold tongue. I also love it when he leaves the ice in his mouth. The heat of my body melts the ice in seconds. I also vaguely remember using something minty in my mouth, not an Altoid but something similar, while giving Jack a blowjob. As I recall, it didn’t really intensify the experience for him.
6. Do you enjoy being spanked, giving spankings, or both?
I enjoy being spanked occasionally. Like blindfolding, I don’t want it all the time. I prefer to be spanked when Jack is fucking me doggy style as I don’t get much out of spanking for its own sake. As for giving spankings, sometimes I will swat Jack’s ass, but I don’t do it in a dominant way, and neither of us really gets off on it. It’s more playful than erotic. The truth is that I’d much rather squeeze his ass like a package of Charmin than spank him.
7. Do you have a safeword? Have you ever used it?
No, we don’t have one. Our BDSM experience is so limited that it has never been an issue. In the past, when I’ve been restrained in an uncomfortable position, I’ve been able to wriggle into a better one, or else tell Jack that I need to be repositioned. We don’t do scenes of any kind, nor are we into rape play, so if I indicate to Jack that I am uncomfortable or that I need the handcuffs removed, he knows that I’m not acting.
Bonus: Tell us in 3-4 sentences the most painful or pleasurable sexual experience you have had.
I’ve had lots of pleasurable experiences, certainly more than I’ve had painful ones. (If you want to read about a particularly painful sexual experience, you can do so here.) Lots of different things like having sex outside, being fingered in public, G-spot play and fisting are all indescribably exciting to me. But even our “routine” sex is very pleasurable. Jack knows my body well and can read my cues, plus we have great communication and that helps as well.
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Oh Jack I died laughing at your emu answer complete with pic… where do you find these?? LOL
Loved your smart-ass answers. I tried to be cheeky (ha!) but being in the midst of Hell Week kinda puts a damper on creative thought.
Glad to see I’m not alone about the tickling!!
~Kazi xxx
OK Jack the thought of you in feathers chasing an emu cracked me up.. Living in the country we do have emu farms here. My cousin used to have one and bought what he thought were a male and female. To tell their sex he had to umm finger them. Well when he did have a mating pair they wouldn’t mate. He had to literally go out and straddle the female from behind to make the male jealous. Who then ran towards her at top speed preparing to be the first to ‘penetrate’. My cousin had to be quicker than the male. Trust me when I say I laughed till I nearly peed.
Jill try a hall cough drop and keep a fan nearby, see if that doesn’t do something. It is not just the menthol but the contrast between your hot wet mouth and the breeze bringing out the mint when the air hits it.. ahem. Not that I know or anything. umm yeah. Hot and funny as always ya’ll. Oh and Jack let her blindfold you one time, trust me you will enjoy it.
emus aren’t emo though their names are similar…i found that out the hard way…
On the subject of cold, as a penurious (or maybe just miserly) student, I lived for year in an apartment with an archaic heating system. In the depths of winter, there was sometimes frost on the inside of the windows. When the eventual Mrs. VS visited, we slept, and loved, beneath a formidable pile of blankets and quilts.
Outside, a kid practicing with his hockey stick kept yelling “Esposito! Score!” I never told him my name isn’t Esposito.
Jack, seriously, I’m glad you pay your heating bill now. Lol, hilarious.
Jill, great answers.
As always you both are highly entertaining.
Happy Tuesday! 😉
That was great fun to read, too funny!
You are indeed interesting and entertaining. As fun as the emu story is, I enjoyed the stay-at-home dad comment more amusing
Great answers. Jack, your answer for number 7 cracked me up! I could just picture someone trying to use that as a safeword. Jill, I can’t imagine having my toes sucked on, as I am way too ticklish.
as always, your TMI is hawt!!!
((hugs))
Aluv