Yeah, I know. We usually post these retrospectives in May. Sorry about that; we’ll try not to let it happen again.
We can use this space for the standard in-depth examination of masturbation as we’ve done in the past, but it doesn’t seem like there’s much to say about masturbation in general, or Masturbation Month itself, that we didn’t say in either of our previous retrospective posts. So instead we’ll share with you some stats:
My Masturbation Count: 62*
Sessions without orgasm: 17
Sessions with three or more orgasms in a row: 12
With Hitachi Magic Wand: 20
Kneeling: 36
Prone: 26
In shower: 24
While sexy chatting: 36
While Skyping: 3
While watching porn: 12
While reading blogs, perusing blog pictures, etc.: 16
Jill’s Masturbation Count: 46*
With Eroscillator: 20
With other toy: 23
Entirely with fingers: 3
In shower: 23
While sexy chatting: 8
While Skyping: 1
While watching porn: 9
While reading blogs, perusing blog pictures, etc.: 6
With anal stimulation: 4
With G-spot stimulation: 10
A few thoughts on the above data:
In the beginning of the month I used the Hitachi Magic Wand, as I’ve been doing since we got it in late 2012. Not every single time, of course; while the sensation of having it placed against my frenulum is pleasurable and the amount of effort required to get myself off with it is minimal, I’ve begun worrying that regular use, or at least using it more than I use my hands, will make me less receptive to certain kinds of sensation. It’s worth noting that thusfar there’s been little if any noticeable impact on my sexual response, but I’ve decided to temporarily shelve the Hitachi just to see what effects, if any, result from changing up my routine. Thus while the typical month might see me using the Hitachi more than fifty percent of the time, last month saw me using it in around one-third of my solo masturbation sessions.
Though in the past blogs have always been major orgasm fodder for me – at least since 2011 when we joined the vibrant community of sex bloggers and dove into blogging more or less full time – of late reading blogs has kind of fallen by the wayside a bit. When I find myself with some alone time and want a quick orgasm I am less likely to look up a friend’s blog, though I do find myself occasionally following a link tweeted by someone on Twitter. I find that sexy chats have been my primary inspiration; few things are more rewarding than feeling aroused, sending a message to a sexy friend, finding out they’re just as turned on as you are, and embarking on a sort of verbal seduction.
Jill, on the other hand, relies primarily on fantasy. This is due less to lack of interest in other types of stimulation than it is to her reluctance to get her phone wet. She makes time to masturbate almost every day before she leaves for work, though the nature of her morning schedule dictates that she multitask by getting herself off in the shower. (The “other toy” referred to in Jill’s stats is one of a couple different waterproof vibrators that she keeps amongst the shampoo and body wash.) Sometimes I join her there, and of course I am only too happy to do it for her. But I like the sense of entitlement she exhibits here: She works hard, she does a lot for our family, and she deserves pleasure whenever and however she can get it. That sexual agency is an aspect of Jill’s character that I not only find attractive, but also genuinely admire.
While Jill finds the mental stimulation provided by a sexual daydream the ideal inspiration for an orgasm in the shower, she’s probably just as likely to lose herself in a vivid erotic fantasy while lying on our bed. That being said, she would undoubtedly masturbate while watching porn, chatting with sexy friends, or Skyping much more if she was able, but between her work schedule and the fact that she and our daughter are nearly inseparable after she gets home from work prevents this. Our respective stats clearly illustrate how much easier it is for me to indulge in this fashion than it is for her.
One thing we did not do last month? Masturbate while reading any manner of non-blog erotica. This may seem surprising; we have quite an expansive collection of erotic anthologies and such famously housed in a bookcase in our bedroom. In the past it was not unusual for one of us – or both – to while away an hour diddling ourselves while consuming the stories in a random tome. Lest you think that our lack of literary masturbation means that we place less of a premium on reading and intelligence than we once did, I feel the need to disclose that I am refinishing one of our other bookcases, and have opted to place its books on the sexy bookcase temporarily. This has rendered most of our printed erotica somewhat out of reach, or at least inconvenient to access.
If you’ve never ready our previous Masturbation Month retrospective posts, they are definitely worth a look. Jill’s post and my own can be found in May 2012 and May 2013, respectively. We’d link you to the posts themselves, but we feel that if you go looking for them on your own you might come across other worthwhile posts.
We hope that your Masturbation Month was as enjoyable as ours!
*For the purposes of this post the masturbation count reflects the number of solo (i.e. not during partnered sex) orgasms. In some cases masturbation was initiated but curtailed before orgasm; such instances are listed as “Sessions without orgasm” and do not count toward the main total. Totals are approximate as, especially in Jill’s case, multiples may occur in such rapid succession that it’s nearly impossible to keep track. Anyway, it’s about the journey, not the destination.
“…Until you do it in front of them.”
Then, it’s all of the above plus sexy too! Oh, but choose your audience carefully of course.
Interesting info. I am surprised by you (Jack) using the Hitachi so often. I always think of it as a “girl toy,” but there’s no good reason for me thinking that. My husband doesn’t like anything more than soft vibration on his frenulum..The magic wand would get thrown across the room, I suspect, before he knew what he was doing, without an attachment or something else cushioning the vibes.
Also, sexy chat vs. fantasy daydream: I find them to be almost the same thing, to me anyway. Chat, unless it’s with someone I have a more encompassing relationship with, is just kind of a spoken fantasy encounter. Verbal porn. I know there are others who feel it’s more of a relationship thing. A poll somewhere would be interesting to find out people’s feelings about it in general.
This is definitely one of your most interesting posts. I think the “scientific data” is appealing. Thanks to both of you for sharing.