It is Monday. In my head is a scary place to be. Here’s what is flowing out of my brain for this TMI Tuesday…

WTH is she thinking?!

Jack’s Answers

1. You have been asked to organize a sex & kink weekend. Will you be more of a “hands-on” person or more of an “ideas” person?
I like to think of myself as both, at least when it comes to the sexual realm. I’ve been to enough play parties, kink clubs and such to have some ideas about what makes them fun and engaging to attendees, and I feel like I could contribute in that area. However, if you think I’m the sort of person who would be better utilized behind the scenes at such an event than right in the mix, you’re sorely mistaken. I’m very hands-on, and what better place to be hands-on than at some sort of sex-positive event?

2. Assuming you are the hands-on type at this weekend sex romp, and you’ve entered a tent to ‘play’ with a male/female couple. Would you like to be given clear instructions before you begin to ‘play’ or do you prefer to be given the general idea of the task and work it out your own way.
The general idea is probably sufficient. While I do prefer knowing the boundaries and expectations of the other parties involved, I’m not so bereft of ideas and imagination that I need instructions beforehand, nor am I sufficiently submissive that I want to be told what to do. Thus a brief but explicit statement of the couple’s boundaries is probably all that is needed. In my single days, I actually found myself faced with such an opportunity, but unaware that the couple wanted me to join in, I just watched.

3. True or False. “During sex, I like to hear and accept feedback.”
True. My enjoyment level during sex is directly related to my partner’s enjoyment level. I tend to have less fun if my partner isn’t also having fun. That doesn’t necessarily mean orgasm. It simply means pleasure and gratification, whatever that entails for her. Accordingly, I want to know if what I’m doing at any given moment is having the desired effect. And I take feedback well, whether positive or negative. Don’t want your feet touched at all? By all means, let me know! Don’t like the way I’m fingering your G-spot? Let me know that too! Not into G-spot play at all? No need to put up with unwanted sensation! I’ll never figure it out unless you tell me.

4. What are you wearing right now?
Cargo shorts, and underneath it a sexy black pair of boxer briefs. And that’s it. I don’t like wearing clothing to be honest.

5. I show loyalty to my lover by ________ .
Always putting her first in every possible way. While I am physically non-monogamous with leanings toward polyamory and thus capable of multiple relationships, feelings toward multiple people, and certainly flirtation and meaningless – as well as meaningful – sex, I’d like to believe that I have consistently managed to convince Jill that she is the most important person in my entire world. I do this by supporting her emotionally, always being there for her and our daughter, and on at least one occasion completely reordering my life for the sake of her career. Perhaps most significantly, I show Jill loyalty by never engaging in any extracurricular sexual activity without her express consent.

6. Do you always have to argue?
No. I never have to argue. However, there are lots of things that I don’t have to do but do anyway because it can be a lot of fun. I don’t have to eat greasy cheeseburgers. I don’t have to watch Key & Peele. I don’t have to post naked pictures of my wife or myself to this blog every Sunday. I don’t have to make up obscene lyrics to the theme songs of the cartoons my daughter watches. I don’t have to masturbate like one of those monkeys with the swollen red ass. I don’t have to do any of those things, but I still do. And while I don’t have to argue, I sometimes do, though it depends on the issue and the other party. I’m less likely to attempt to change the mind of a complete stranger as I don’t know this person nor his or her reason for having a political opinion with which I disagree. But a family member who has Fox News playing on television? I’ll debate that ignorant motherfucker until they change the channel or throw me out of their home. Expect the frequency and intensity of my arguments to increase as we get closer to the 2016 presidential election.

Bonus: Pick up the closest book to you, open it to page 55. The first line on that page reads: ________ .
When I answered these questions, the book that was closest to me was one of my daughter’s beginning-reader books, and only went up to page 33. However, I went into my office, which has no shortage of reading material, and tried again. This time the line reads “2575: Great Pyramid of Khufu (Cheops), largest of the Egyptian pyramids, is built at Giza.”

Jill’s Answers

1. You have been asked to organize a sex & kink weekend. Will you be more of a “hands-on” person or more of an “ideas” person?
I’ll go with hands-on. I wouldn’t want to come up with the ideas but be shut out of participating in them. I love sex, and I am always excited by the idea of experiencing it in a group setting or otherwise socially with multiple people present. The thought of planning such an event but not getting to enjoy it in a hands-on fashion makes me really sad. However, I have no problem participating in a sex party that I didn’t have a hand in planning. I’ll be curious to see if any of our fellow TMI Tuesday identified themselves as idea people as opposed to hands-on people.

2. Assuming you are the hands-on type at this weekend sex romp, and you’ve entered a tent to ‘play’ with a male/female couple. Would you like to be given clear instructions before you begin to ‘play’ or do you prefer to be given the general idea of the task and work it out your own way.
I want to be told very clearly what the couple’s boundaries are, and what I’m allowed or not allowed to do. Once I know their limits I’m happy to go with the flow. I like spontaneity, and I don’t want or need to follow a script. But in the past when we’ve had a threesome with another woman (or for that matter another man), it’s been very important that my boundaries be respected. I wouldn’t want a third to inadvertently violate one of my boundaries or otherwise do something I wasn’t okay with, and I wouldn’t want to do that to someone else. Therefore I would rather not rely on body language or other nonverbal cues.

3. True or False. “During sex, I like to hear and accept feedback.”
True. I like to know that I’m doing it right. Different people like different things sexually. In fact, the same person might like and dislike different things from session to session. If I know I’m doing it right, it encourages me to keep doing what I’m doing. If a partner gives me gently corrects my technique or otherwise tells me to try something else, I gladly accept their feedback because I enjoy giving my partner pleasure, and I’d like to think my efforts will be reciprocated.

4. What are you wearing right now?
Jeans, a cute black and pink bra, and an apron. I just finished doing some baking, hence the apron. I don’t like wearing much clothing around the house, which is why I’m only wearing a bra. As for why I’m wearing jeans as opposed to just panties, your guess is as good as mine. I guess I just didn’t get around to taking off my jeans before I started baking. I’ll fix that now.

5. I show loyalty to my lover by ________ .
Being completely trustworthy and treating him in a manner that befits his position as the number-one person in my life. I do this in pretty much every possible way.

6. Do you always have to argue?
No. I rarely argue, actually. I don’t see the point in trying to persuade others to see things my way. It doesn’t seem to accomplish anything, and in fact can cause problems in existing relationships. I might be inclined to have a civil, constructive discussion and present the reasons why I hold the position that I hold, but I don’t argue. I’m confident in my opinions and don’t see a reason to try and force others into my way of thinking.

Bonus: Pick up the closest book to you, open it to page 55. The first line on that page reads: ________ .
“Although fountain proprietors haven’t actually used sodium bicarbonate to make water bubbly for nearly two hundred years, the term soda stuck around.”

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