For the fourth time, Jill and I observed Masturbation Month throughout May. As we did in our previous Masturbation Month post, we thought we’d take some time to share some statistics on our respective month-long celebrations.
My orgasm-from-masturbation count: 62*
Sessions without orgasm: 9
Sessions with three or more orgasms in a row: 7
With Hitachi Magic Wand: 11
Kneeling or sitting: 29
Lying flat: 20
In shower: 13
While sexy chatting: 31
While Skyping: 3
While watching porn: 16
While reading blogs, perusing blog pictures, Tumblr, etc.: 12
Most frequent location: Bedroom
Jill’s orgasm-from-masturbation count: 49*
Sessions without orgasm: 2
Greatest number of orgasms in a single session: 4
With Eroscillator: 27
With other toy: 15
Entirely with fingers: 6
Other: 1
In shower: 17
While sexy chatting: 3
While Skyping: 1
While watching porn: 19
While reading blogs, perusing blog pictures, Tumblr, etc.: 8
With anal stimulation: 3
With G-spot stimulation: 12
Most frequent location: Bedroom
A few thoughts on the above data:
I was pleased with the apparently high number of orgasms I had last month until I took a look at the data for May of last year and saw that the two figures are exactly the same. That is not to say that I am displeased with my May 2015 orgasms, just that it doesn’t seem quite as impressive as it previously did. I’d consider counting my orgasms during some other month just to see if sixty-two is typical, but I’m certain that I was stepping up my masturbation game during the last two Masturbation Month. I’m guessing an average month sees something along the lines of forty to forty-five.
I notice also that the number of sessions without orgasm has decreased; this is undoubtedly due to the fact that my daughter’s tendency to interrupt while I’m enjoying a wank has also decreased as she’s become more self-reliant and capable of spending half an hour alone. However, I believe this is also part of the reason why the high-volume sessions, i.e. those with three or more orgasms at a time, are down as well. If I can expect to be able to sneak off to my bedroom for an orgasm or two while my daughter is hanging out in the living room, I don’t always feel as urgently compelled to have several in a row while she’s out of the house at school as I might have last year.
However, I do notice that my porn-watching is up, and sexy chatting is down, at least in conjunction with masturbation. Maybe it’s because I’ve found myself somewhat more rushed. I’ve got more obligations than I did a year ago, and accordingly, less time for getting myself off, which probably sounds really disingenuous in light of the fact that I managed to do so sixty-two times last month. However, while I’m always up for a flirty – if not downright dirty – chat with a sexy lady, sometimes it was more expedient to simply turn on some porn than it would have been to engage in a slow and sensual verbal tango via text, DM, or Kik.
In our previous Masturbation Month recap I mentioned shelving the Hitachi Magic Wand with which I’d been spoiling myself in favor of a more hands-on approach. While I did use it last month, I was down to eleven orgasms with it from the previous May’s twenty. While I do enjoy the sensation and find the orgasms to be pretty intense, I still have some concerns about sensitivity. I wonder if I should upgrade to the new rechargeable model which has four settings.
Many of Jill’s figures were close to the corresponding figures from 2014. Overall, she had three more orgasms this year than she did last year, and Eroscillator use was comparable. “Other toy” use was slightly down, because shower masturbation (using a waterproof vibrator) was also down, seventeen from last year’s twenty-three. Masturbation entirely with her fingers was higher than last year, though not significantly so.
Jill has mentioned that she’s relying less on fantasy and more on porn than she did a year ago. As is the case with myself, this is likely due to her own lack of time and sleep, as well as increased fatigue. While she still masturbates in the shower before work, she doesn’t do it nearly as often as she did last year, and when she does, there’s only an approximately fifty-percent chance that she’ll utilize any sort of fantasy as stimulation in getting herself off. When she’s masturbating away from the shower, she is most likely to watch porn on her phone.
(It’s probably no coincidence that the amount of fantasizing she’s done during sex is also down. I ask frequently what’s on her mind, because I like to be inside my wife’s head as much as I like to be inside her pussy; the things that turn her on also turn me on. However, as we often have sex at the end of a long day, her mind seems less likely to be completely engaged; typically in such a situation she’s more focused on her orgasm as opposed to the specific stimulation that gets her there. Thus, her answer more often than not is “Just focusing on coming.” However, we have some friends, both male and female, both online and off, who she has admitted to thinking about on her way to climax over the last four weeks.)
Unlike last year, however, Jill has gotten off reading what we referred to in our previous Masturbation Month post as “non-blog erotica”, namely Three of Hearts: Erotic Romance for Women, edited by Kristina Wright and Alison Tyler. It’s the only erotic anthology we’ve purchased of late, and given her love of threesomes it makes sense that it would inspire her to orgasm, even if only a couple times. I did not get off to the book during Masturbation Month, as I’d finished reading it in April and passed it along to Jill well before May first.
Oh, and that single instance of “Other” cited in Jill’s statistics? That was the time she humped the bed until she came. It was probably the hottest thing I’ve ever witnessed her doing. Well, easily in the top ten.
In addition to the above-linked Masturbation Month 2014 recap, if you’ve never read our 2012 and 2013 Masturbation Month retrospective posts, they are definitely worth a look. Jill’s post and my own can be found in May 2012 and May 2013, respectively. We’d link you to the posts themselves, but we feel that if you go looking for them on your own you might come across other worthwhile posts.
*For the purposes of this post the masturbation count reflects the number of solo (i.e. not during partnered sex) orgasms. In some cases masturbation was initiated but curtailed before orgasm; such instances are listed as “Sessions without orgasm” and do not count toward the main totals. Totals are approximate as, especially in Jill’s case, multiples may occur in such rapid succession that it’s nearly impossible to keep track.
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