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Jack’s Answers

1. Would you take a course in advanced sex positions? Why?
Yeah, I would. I would do so because I find sex extremely interesting and want not only to know as much as possible on the subject, but also to be able to achieve as much as possible. To expand my sexual repertoire, if you will. I think such a course would be fascinating, and likely very erotic. So yes. I’m in.

2. “Did you orgasm?”
Men: Do you ask your sex partners this? Women: Have you been asked this?
Men, why do you ask this question? Women, do you mind being asked this question?
I have asked my partners this, though I don’t ask frequently. I find that in most cases I can tell whether my partner has had an orgasm, or wants me to believe she has. Especially if we have an ongoing relationship and/or a good rapport, it’s pretty easy for me to tell. When I have asked my partner if she’s had an orgasm, it’s because I am interested in her pleasure and want to ensure that she is satisfied. I realize not every woman considers orgasm the end-all be-all that it’s made out to be, but I do take it seriously, and if my partner wants to come, I’m going to do my best to make sure she isn’t left wanting. Also, I rarely use “orgasm” as a verb. I’m more likely to ask if she came.

3. “Was it good for you?”
Have you ever asked this question after having sex? Were you ever told “No, it was not good.” If yes, what did you do?
I have never asked this question to a partner after sex. Part of the reason why is that it seems like the most cliché thing to say. I’m more likely, as we’re lying together, catching our breath, getting ready to shower, or what have you, to remark about what a great time I had. If my partner did as well, she’ll say as much; if not I assume she won’t lie. However, a larger part of the reason why I refrain from saying this is that, much like my answer to #2, if I have a rapport with the other person I can probably tell whether she’s enjoyed herself.

4. When was the last time you had a simple, sexy “make out” session? Do you wish you had more purely “make out” sessions?
It’s been far too long. I like making out, but I hesitate to say that I want more makeout sessions for their own sake. In my mind it sounds like I’m saying I’d be content with just making out. While I would in theory, I don’t want to give anyone the idea that I would somehow be against the makeout session leading to sex.

5. When is that last time you had a “quickie”– sex lasting 5 minutes or less? How often do you engage in “quickies”?
Not for awhile, I don’t think. A few months, if memory serves. Jill and I do have quickies from time to time, and we enjoy them. But generally speaking if we’re able to engage in sex it’s when we’ve got more than just a few minutes. Usually this is when our daughter is asleep, in school, or otherwise not about to knock on our bedroom door. That being said, we recently had a very hot session in the kitchen while she was watching television in the next room. There was some fingering and such, but no penetration or orgasm for either of us. It was less than five minutes long, but I’m not entirely sure whether this counts as a quickie.

Bonus: Think about the person that is/was your favorite sex partner? Why were they your favorite?
An open mind and lack of restraint or inhibition. Attentiveness to my needs and interest in my pleasure, and her own as well. Willingness to express what she wants. A considerable physical connection between us, and an emotional one as well. Reliable sexual rhythm, and significant overlap in needs, turn-ons, etc. I’m not saying that there needs to be an emotional connection for someone to be my favorite sex partner, but there’s no way I can think it doesn’t make the sex better than it would be without it.

Jill’s Answers

1. Would you take a course in advanced sex positions? Why?
I would definitely take a course in advanced sexual positions. I’m always up for learning and trying new things, and interested in adding more excitement to the bedroom.

2. “Did you orgasm?”
Men: Do you ask your sex partners this? Women: Have you been asked this?
Men, why do you ask this question? Women, do you mind being asked this question?
Yes, I’ve been asked if I orgasm. It usually doesn’t bother me, although most of the time I’m very vocal so it’s not a question that needs to be asked. Usually they’re just asking to make sure I’m satisfied, so I don’t mind being asked.

3. “Was it good for you?”
Have you ever asked this question after having sex? Were you ever told “No, it was not good.” If yes, what did you do?
I don’t think I’ve ever asked the question myself, though occasionally I’ll ask if there’s something my partner wants me to do differently, or if there’s anything they are wanting to try.

4. When was the last time you had a simple, sexy “make out” session? Do you wish you had more purely “make out” sessions?
It’s been awhile since I’ve had a simple make out session, although I do enjoy them very much. Especially if there happens to be lots of touching, squeezing, rubbing, etc. while we make out. Yes, I would like to have more make out sessions. Hey Jack: Let’s make it happen soon!

5. When is that last time you had a “quickie”– sex lasting 5 minutes or less? How often do you engage in “quickies”?
It’s been awhile since I’ve had a quickie as well. Those usually only happen when we sneak away for a few minutes while our daughter is still awake. We are more likely to wait until she’s asleep or out of the house and take our time. I still enjoy quickies, of course. What’s not to enjoy? It’s just that Jack and I are both greedy and always want more than what a five-minute session will give us.

Bonus: Think about the person that is/was your favorite sex partner? Why were they your favorite?
This question makes me think of what the definition of a good sex partner might be. For me, it’s someone who makes love to every inch of me. Someone who can read my whole body. Someone who caresses and squeezes me, someone who holds me in their arms and kisses me all over. Someone who seems to know what I need before I even know it. Someone with whom I am completely comfortable. Someone who can turn me on without even touching me, engage me mentally, and satisfy me completely because it’s what he or she wants most. Someone who enjoys my company, who enjoys holding my hand or incidentally touching my leg while we’re sitting together at a restaurant. Someone whose touch sets my body on fire, and who after satisfying me fully, wants to cuddle and fall asleep intertwined.

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