TMI Tuesday: May 2, 2017

Jack’s Answers

1. Today is couple appreciation day. What do you most appreciate about being a couple (consider current or past relationships)
I appreciate emotional intimacy (and physical intimacy as well). I appreciate support and expressions of care. I appreciate consistency and reliability. I appreciate the ability to open up and be completely honest without fear of rejection or betrayal.

2. It is also Global Love Day. How can you or how will you extend love today?
By being there for the people I love, and demonstrating my feelings with words as well as actions. I’ll also do my best to be pleasant and welcoming in order to show the people with whom I interact but do not necessarily love – think random people I may encounter on the street – that they are important.

3. May 1 is loyalty day as well, originally it had to do with patriotism in the United States. That meaning aside, in what ways are you loyal?
I demonstrate loyalty by always supporting those who matter to me. I make sure I am there when I am needed, I keep my word when I give it, and I never let those to whom I am loyal doubt my position. I am not loyal by blindly following a destructive, hate-filled megalomaniac who should be in prison.

4. So it seems today is also Phone In Sick day. When is the last time you phoned in sick? Were you really sick? How did you spend the “sick” day?
My last sick day was more than a dozen years ago, as I’ve been self-employed since then. I have no idea why I took a sick day, but for the sake of making this answer interesting, I’ll say that while on my lunch break I met a gorgeous, leggy brunette at a cafe near work, and called my supervisor to say I had food poisoning and wouldn’t be back to work that day. Then I took her back to my apartment for sex. I realize that this is technically a sick half-day, but it’s probably the most exciting story I could’ve come up with so deal with it, I guess.

5. May 1, 1840 the world’s first adhesive postage stamp was issued in the United Kingdom. Who would you like to see on a postage stamp?
Donald Trump, but the stamp must be in commemoration of his conviction and imprisonment on charges of treason. If not, I’m not interested.

Bonus: How was your first day of May?
Fairly typical not only for the first day of May, but just about any weekday. Worked out, ran some errands, flirted with beautiful women via text, instant messenger, or other virtual means, and played with my kid. Can’t really complain.

Jill’s Answers

1. Today is couple appreciation day. What do you most appreciate about being a couple (consider current or past relationships)
I appreciate being able to cuddle, feel supported, spend time with the other person, and enjoy intimacy not limited to kissing and sex.

2. It is also Global Love Day. How can you or how will you extend love today?
I will extend love by reaching out to others to remind them how important their presence is in my life.

3. May 1 is loyalty day as well, originally it had to do with patriotism in the United States. That meaning aside, in what ways are you loyal?
I am loyal to my family and friends. I’m always someone who can be counted on to follow through or be there when needed.

4. So it seems today is also Phone In Sick day. When is the last time you phoned in sick? Were you really sick? How did you spend the “sick” day?
I last called in sick last Wednesday. My flight home was delayed and I missed my connection, which caused me to spend the night in an airport far from home. I spent my “sick” day flying home, sleeping, and playing with both my daughter and husband (albeit in different ways).

5. May 1, 1840 the world’s first adhesive postage stamp was issued in the United Kingdom. Who would you like to see on a postage stamp?
Me! Because everybody should have the opportunity to lick my backside.

Bonus: How was your first day of May?
Work was crazy, but the massage to which I treated myself after work was so wonderful. Overall, my day was terrific!

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TMI Tuesday: April 25, 2017

TMI Tuesday…play it, enjoy it!

Times keep-a-changin’

[Note: Jill is on assignment*, so I’m participating solo this week.]

[*shacked up]

1. Does your workplace have a “casual Friday” or a day when you can dress down or out of uniform?
As I am self-employed, every day is casual Friday. And since I seldom venture out into the field these days, it is more than acceptable for me to work naked, since I’m typically working from home.

2. Has the growth of social media and unabashed sharing of personal info on social media made you MORE or LESS cautious about your privacy?
Regardless of the growth of social media, I’m probably less cautious than I was even a couple years ago. I’ve never been all that concerned about my privacy beyond my need to keep my and Jill’s blog personas and our real-life selves separate. But whereas five years ago I was paranoid about someone making the connection, I’m largely convinced that nobody gives that much of a fuck about us. I suspect, in fact, that I could leak a face photo or a tweet full of personal information and nobody would notice it.

3. Is gay marriage legal where you live?
Yes it is.

4. Is smoking marijuana legal where you live? Under what circumstances?
It is legal in the sense that if one possesses marijuana, one may consume it. One may give or be given marijuana by another party and use it as well. Currently one is not permitted to sell marijuana, as I understand it, as it was only made legal last year, and dispensaries are not expected to begin operations until 2018.

5. Give us a hashtag that best describes your weekend. Hashtag must be 15 letters or less.
I’m going to go with #fuckeverything. If you follow me on Twitter, you may have gleaned that this weekend was more stressful than most.

Bonus: Have you ever stalked a celebrity? Who?
I don’t believe I’ve ever even written a fan letter. But for the sake of making this answer more interesting, I’ll go ahead and say that during the late 1980s and early 1990s I was arrested several times for trespassing on David Letterman’s property.

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TMI Tuesday: April 11, 2017

SweeteNDirty to the rescue. For today’s TMI Tuesday, she offers the following as it pertains to sexy time!

This or That?

                  Flashback to my junior year of high school.

Jack’s Answers

1 – Lights on or off?
Lights on, definitely. I may be most quickly aroused on a mental level, but that doesn’t mean that I don’t get much from visual stimulation. I absolutely do, and being able to clearly see my partner’s body, and what she is doing while we’re together, is an enormous turn-on for me.

2 – Slow teasing or getting right to business?
I enjoy a good tease, provided it gets my partner hotter than she already was. I guess I enjoy the end result more than the tease itself. So yes, I have been known to make the buildup take a very long time. However, once I get down to business, I go all-out.

3 – Giver or receiver?
Definitely a giver. Which is not to say that I don’t enjoy receiving. I absolutely do, especially if what I’m receiving is oral sex. But much like how I can never just sit and relax on the couch at the end of a long day, preferring to get something, anything, done before I go to bed, I also tend to approach sex with the attitude of “I can’t just lie here doing nothing. There has to be something proactive I could be doing right now.” Rather than going for mine, I often find myself giving my partner a few more.

4 – Background noise or no?
“Background noise” can encapsulate a lot of different things. Are we talking mood music, or are we talking ambient crowd chatter like one might hear at a cocktail party or some sort of public place? Because I was about to say yes to the former and no to the latter, but all of a sudden the thought of fucking in such a setting sounds pretty appealing. That said, I really like hearing the sounds my partner makes, so I tend to want as little background noise as possible.

5 – Top or bottom?
While I’m happy with top, bottom, from behind, or any other position one can name, I think I am most at home in standard, boring-ass missionary position. I really enjoy missionary, moreso in my older age than I ever did as a younger man. While one might view this as a lack of imagination, a willingness to support the patriarchy, or even an indication of my dominant nature, the fact is that I am naturally drawn to what I perceive as the position’s inherent intimacy. It is much easier to gaze into one’s partner’s eyes, whisper sweet nothings, and share passionate kisses when one is in a face-to-face position.

6 – Private or public?
Public is fun. We have had public sex on multiple occasions, and found it intense and satisfying. I would absolutely do it again given the opportunity, provided the public space was conducive to fucking, i.e. a safe place wherein spectators gave implied consent at least. However, I prefer private.

Bonus – Describe your best or worst sexual encounter. Double bonus if you describe both. 😉
To get it out of the way up front, I don’t know that I have a worst sexual encounter. I’ve probably said as much elsewhere on this blog, but while I’ve had partners who didn’t excite me physically as much as I’d have liked, partners who were perhaps too self-focused, partners with whom the sexual connection was somewhat lacking, I can’t say with any certainty that I’ve ever had what one might call bad sex. Definitely not sex with which I was unsatisfied. Even on occasion in my late teens and early twenties when I would fuck for what seemed like hours without ever coming, I still felt pretty gratified to think that the other person looked at me beforehand and thought, “This guy seems pretty cool. I feel comfortable with the thought of him putting himself inside me.” None of these encounters, or any others for that matter, concluded with my partner stealing my clothes and wallet while I was handcuffed to the headboard, attempting breath play without my consent, or smashing my penis between two masonry bricks because that’s how she gets off. Even the women I dated who were, for lack of a more earnest word, terrible people and even a little dangerous still showed me a good time sexually; even if the relationship itself was bad, the sex never was. As for my best sexual encounter, I’m inclined to say the last one, simply because it’s the most recent and therefore the most vivid in my mind. But the truth is, it’s hard for me to pinpoint one best sexual experience throughout the course of my life. Perhaps not every one is absolutely perfect. Perhaps not every sexual thing I’ve ever done is worth sharing. Still, to my mind most of them have been fantastic.

Jill’s Answers

1 – Lights on or off?
Definitely lights on. I like to see the other person, and in doing so better enjoy their body. I feel like I should point out that, before I met Jack, I probably preferred doing it with the lights off. He helped me overcome any byproducts of my Catholic upbringing, including much of my shame.

2 – Slow teasing or getting right to business?
Most of the time a slow tease is wonderful! I enjoy feeling my whole body come alive with each touch, kiss, lick, and bite.

3 – Giver or receiver?
I believe I’m both. I enjoy exploring my partner’s body. I love both giving and receiving oral. Both being on top to take my pleasure, and on the bottom to be used for the other person’s pleasure.

4 – Background noise or no?
I’d rather not have any, though it doesn’t bother or distract me. I just find that it doesn’t really add much of anything. Although occasionally I enjoy having porn on in the backgound.

5 – Top or bottom?
Again, both. I enjoy being on top and riding, and I also love the feeling of being pinned down by the weight of my partner, or their hands holding my wrists.

6 – Private or public?
Usually private, but on the occasion that we’ve had it, public sex has been exciting as well.

Bonus – Describe your best or worst sexual encounter. Double bonus if you describe both. 😉
My best sexual encounters have been the ones when my partner and I have both make it a point to please each other. When we receive just as much pleasure from giving as receiving. When our bodies seem to fit perfectly together and we know exactly what the other person wants. When every touch, kiss, lick, or bite sets my whole body on fire. When the sex is passionate and loving, and usually followed by cuddling before we fall asleep entwined together. My absolute worse sexual encounter, on the other hand, was in the early days of my being sexually active and my then-partner decided to try anal sex without my knowledge or consent. In fact, he decided to try it without lube or warning. Needless to say, we didn’t date very long.

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TMI Tuesday – April 4, 2017

Hey, hey! A beautiful Monday morning here. I hope your day is beautiful in many ways. TMI Tuesday is up!

Tell It Like It Is.

                          First image that came up for “Tell it like it is”.

Elaborate on each in greater than 20 words but no more than 100 words.

Jack’s Answers

1. Sex is _____ .
Sex is one of my biggest motivations in life. I’ve said elsewhere in this blog that throughout my forty years, sex (or at least the possibility thereof) has been a determining factor in most of the choices I’ve made. Even on a subconscious level, the likelihood of getting laid has influenced my decision to pursue a field of study, engage in a certain pastime, or wear a particular tie. It is one of my absolute favorite things life has to offer.

2. Love is _____ .

Love is unlimited potential for happiness while carefully skirting the edges of the worst despair imaginable. It is the willingness to lay down one’s life for another. It is infinite support, care, and concern. It is saying you’re sorry even when it’s not your fault. Love is something in which we should all be free to love, without shame, without concern for perception or judgment. Were we all able to do so, the world would be a utopia.

3. Money is _____ .
Money is important, but it isn’t everything. I say that as a man who’s spent almost fifteen years self-employed. When I first started my business, I doubt I would have said that money isn’t everything. Or I might have said it, but perhaps I wouldn’t have meant it. Since that time – not just since becoming a parent, though that certainly is part of it – it’s occurred to me that I can’t live my life solely for the purpose of building capital. Life has to be about more than that, or what’s the point?

4. Power is _____ .
Power is something that has largely eluded me throughout my life. And I’m okay with that. I tend to associate power with corrupt, twisted individuals who use that power to harm others. Reactionary politicians, brutal dictators, self-important billionaires. I realize that this isn’t the only manifestation of power; some use what influence they have to better the lives of others. Power is better suited to individuals like these.

5. Life is _____ .
Life is as good as one is willing to let it be. I’ve never been one for clichés like “Life is what you make of it”, but that’s basically true. As someone who’s suffered from depression for most of his life, I realize that it’s not as easy as simply focusing on the positive, but for the last couple years, since I’ve made a point of doing exactly that, I find my depression is less severe than it once was. And it used to be all-encompassing.

Bonus: Food is _____ .

Food is one of my passions. Second only to sex, food is one of the greatest pleasures I can think of, and I live to indulge myself. Food is social, it is therapeutic, and above all it is – or at least it should be – delicious. A good meal helps put things in perspective, and at least in my experience it can turn a lousy day into a great one.

Jill’s Answers

1. Sex is _____ .

Sex is being intimate with one or more people. Enjoying and exploring someone’s body, even your own. Learning what excites them. Kissing, touching, licking, sucking, nibbling, biting, and fucking.

2. Love is _____ .
Love is truly caring for someone else. It may entail putting their needs before your own. Being willing to listen and pay attention. Wanting to give them your undivided attention. It’s being respectful, trustworthy, and wanting what is best for them.

3. Money is _____ .
Money is something I work very hard for every day. It’s what allows us to have a roof over our heads, and food on our table. It provides us with a chance to travel, and in doing so, see the world and meet exciting new people.

4. Power is _____ .
Power is knowing your worth and not letting anyone take that away from you. It is standing up for what you believe in, and living the life that is best for you regardless of anyone else’s objections.

5. Life is _____ .

Life is happiness and love. It’s adventure and exploration. It’s doing what makes you happy, but also dealing with sadness and disappointment. Life, at its best, is wonderful and exciting.

Bonus: Food is _____ .
Food is amazing. It’s part of our celebrations of life as well as a means of dealing with grief. It’s comfort and happiness in an edible package. It’s what we need not only to survive, but to thrive.

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TMI Tuesday: March 28, 2017

It’s a lovely spring day here in the mid-atlantic region of the U.S. How’s your weather? What season is it? Oh, and let’s do TMI Tuesday. 🙂

Sexy it is!

Jack’s Answers

1. What question about sex do you find hard to ask your partner?
I don’t really know what to say here. I’ve never had to stifle the urge to ask if I was enough for my partner physically; as a non-monogamous person it ultimately doesn’t matter. I don’t have trouble asking if my partner has climaxed if the answer is ambiguous. I tend to have no problem asking for something sexual that I want to do, and as anyone who’s slept with me can attest, I probably ask if the other person is okay so often it’s annoying. I suppose I don’t typically ask my partner about their sexual past, but that’s less due to difficulty or any sort of psychological block, and more about an unwillingness to pry into things that aren’t my business. In the interest of being done with the question, though, I’m going to go with that.

2. What question about sex do you find hard to ask anyone?
“What position were you conceived in?” In addition to finding it distasteful, especially when asked by a random stranger at a Starbucks, most people just plain don’t know.

3. Sexually, what are your favorite things to do?
There isn’t much I don’t like, though if I have to narrow it down to, say, four, I’d go with finding my partner’s G-spot, ideally while fingering, licking, and/or sucking her clit; making out, ideally while caressing my partner’s body and being caressed simultaneously, or for that matter undressing her; receiving oral sex, because who doesn’t like the amazing combination of receiving sexual stimulation while not moving at all?; and, uh…what the hell. I’ll go with penetrative sex for number four.

4. Name 3 things that most excite your imagination when you imagine doing them?
The first is watching a woman masturbate. I find that this specifically sparks my imagination because chances are that if I’ve interacted with a woman, I’ve probably wondered how she gets herself off. I’ve imagined how she looks naked, what techniques or toys she might use, and what she looks and sounds like when she climaxes. So the thought of actually getting to watch is unbelievably exciting for me. The second is finding my partner’s G-spot, because I love giving pleasure, and it invariably provokes an amazing physical response. The third is probably some manner of group sex – typically a threesome or foursome – because I like indulging in both voyeurism and exhibitionism while having sex.

5. In how many countries have you had sexual relations?
Just two. Ninety-nine percent (or more) of the sex I’ve had has occurred in the United States, as that is where I’ve spent the vast majority of my life. I also had sex a lot of sex with Jill in Ireland while on vacation there in the early days of our dating relationship. And if one wishes to be technical, we had sex on a cruise ship that was docked in a Canadian port, but I’m not certain that counts.

Bonus: Describe your ideal sex partner.
Honestly, just about any woman who’s willing to engage me sexually is my ideal partner. Physically I don’t have a type; over the years my girlfriends and lovers have run the proverbial gamut of size, shape, ethnicity, and characteristics. All have been very attractive and sexy. So if I have to describe the ideal, she would possess certain qualities that transcend the physical. She’d have to have an open mind, be eager to please and be pleased, and be proactive in bed (or wherever we happen to be getting off together). In other words, she should take an active interest in her own pleasure (and my own), and not simply lie there on the verge of sleep.

Jill’s Answers

1. What question about sex do you find hard to ask your partner?
I don’t really think there is anything I find hard to ask. When I was younger and just beginning to be sexually active I used to find it hard to approach the subject of whether a partner had been tested recently. But I got over that fairly quickly. My health is the most important thing, and it wasn’t difficult to keep it in the forefront of my mind. Today, there really isn’t anything I’m shy about asking. I find that sharing openly ensures the experience is best for both of us (or however many people are present).

2. What question about sex do you find hard to ask anyone?
Again, I can’t think of anything I find it hard to ask or talk about. I’m always very willing to share, and while I may not initiate sex talk with someone who I’m not certain is receptive to it, if the other person starts it, I’ll ask anything: Favorite position, spit or swallow, opinion of anal sex, etc.

3. Sexually, what are your favorite things to do?
I love the intimacy leading up to sex. The touching, the kissing, the longing looks, the exploration, and the closeness are all aspects of foreplay that excite me endlessly. After that, I really love oral sex, both giving and receiving. As for penetration, I love riding as I really enjoy the feeling of fullness that I get in that position. In missionary, I am always excited by the feel of my lover’s weight on my body. When being fucked from behind, there is something very enticing about being bent over and taken, often while his hands grip my ass or my hips, or pull my hair. Lastly, I love experiencing afterglow while entwined with the other person.

4. Name 3 things that most excite your imagination when you imagine doing them?

The first is exploring my lover’s body. I enjoy touching, licking, kissing, and sucking. There is so much pleasure to be had! The second is him kissing my neck. I can vividly imagine feeling his breath right before his lips touch my skin. The third is cunnilingus. The thought of my lover’s mouth and tongue driving me wild has me very wet.

5. In how many countries have you had sexual relations?
Only two, but I am always looking to add to that number.

Bonus: Describe your ideal sex partner.

My ideal sexual partner is a caring lover who is able to read my body and play it like a piano. A man who wants to excite my mind as well as my body. He would ideally be eager to enjoy all of me, to engage in slow, tender lovemaking as well as furious, energetic fucking. He must enjoy being touched, savored, and pleasured, cuddling and kissing me. He would seem to know what I want and need, both physically and emotionally, even before I do. With him, I would feel truly connected and engaged.

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