TMI Tuesday this week is all about YOUR sexual guide.
Lovers Guide
Jack’s Answers
1. Write your 3 sexual commandments and share them here at TMI Tuesday.
1. Thou shalt not lose sight of thy own pleasure while trying to please thy partner(s).
2. Thou shalt communicate with thy partner(s) in a fashion commensurate with the nature of the relationship.
3. Thou shalt be open to the sexual interests of thy partner(s).
EDIT: I feel like a bit of an idiot for not referencing consent here. It’s pretty much the most important sexual commandment. In my defense, consent is always so paramount in my mind that I went with the commandments of which I often have to remind myself during sex. Especially the first one.
2. Tell us your 3 D’s of relationship destruction.
1. Disrespect
2. Deception
3. Dissatisfaction
3. WikiHow lists several steps to seduce someone. What are your top 3 moves of seduction?
1. Eye contact
2. Validation
3. Intelligent conversation
4. What is your sexual healing?
I like intimacy and tenderness, but I also like to be given control, sometimes including rough play. I like to feel validated sexually, in particular knowing that I give my partner pleasure (but only if I really do – please don’t fake it). All of these things are incredibly healing and cathartic for me.
5. Would you attend a class that taught you how to have an orgasm?
Sure, if I wasn’t sure how to go about having one or was otherwise having difficulty. I’m guessing there are things about my own sexual response and orgasm that I don’t know, but after more about thirty years of deliberate experimentation and practice, I’m probably good.
Bonus: In which areas of your life are you overly confident?
Parenting. Cooking. Sex.
Jill’s Answers
1. Write your 3 sexual commandments and share them here at TMI Tuesday.
1. Thou shalt have fun.
2. Thou shalt be open to trying new things.
3. Thou shalt be attentive to your partner’s needs.
2. Tell us your 3 D’s of relationship destruction.
1. Don’t feel like a priority.
2. Don’t be honest.
3. Don’t feel a connection.
3. WikiHow lists several steps to seduce someone. What are your top 3 moves of seduction?
1. Smiling
2. Touching
3. Expressing interest
4. What is your sexual healing?
1. Cuddling
2. Massaging
3. Kissing
5. Would you attend a class that taught you how to have an orgasm?
I feel like I’m pretty good at orgasming, but I’m all for exploring new ways to achieve climax, and if that involves having orgasms in public, even better!
Bonus: In which areas of your life are you overly confident?
My ability to cook is definitely something in which I have confidence, as is my job, my ability to take care of my family, and while we’re on the subject, my ability to have orgasms.
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