We have been sex bloggers for a decade. To me that seems so unlikely, so absolutely impossible, that instinct dictates that I check a calendar in order to assure myself that I’m mistaken. Could we really have been doing this for ten years? That’s 120 months. 3,650 days. 5,256,000 minutes. One-tenth of a century. More than ten times as long as I was willing to volunteer on the PTA at my daughter’s school.
To give you a sense of how long we’ve been at it, when we launched this blog Barack Obama was a United States Senator.

Back then, Jill and I were childless, married just over a year, and looking for a means of expressing ourselves sexually. We got the idea of starting a sex blog from a couple of friends who had been sex bloggers previously, before we knew them. (The “Frisky” in our blog title was their suggestion; without them this blog might be known as “Horny in the 916”, “Aroused in the 916”, “Turned on in the 916”, or possibly even “In Heat in the 916”. [Okay, probably not that last one.])

It took a long time for our blog to find a steady readership; our first audience was made up of a very small handful of trusted offline friends, none of whom we currently hear from on a regular basis. As they gradually ceased checking in, we went from having a very small readership to having no readership – a hypothetical audience, if you will – in 2009 and 2010 – to having an expansive, dedicated fanbase during our most prolific period in 2011 and 2012 – and slowly back to that same hypothetical audience in recent years.

In that time, we made more friends than we can count, some of whom were (or still are) bloggers, while others resulted from our joining Twitter in 2011. We have met more of these friends in person than we ever thought we would. We have forged strong connections that transcend friendship with some. We have mourned the loss of others.

Though we have not blogged consistently (in one instance going completely dark for more than a year) it’s always been a valued outlet for Jill and I. Whether we are participating in weekly memes such as TMI Tuesday and Sinful Sunday, sharing original fiction we’ve written, or sharing deeply personal anecdotes, this blog has always been important to us.

In the last decade we have had and raised a child. We have completely upended our life, moving not only to a different part of California but also to a significantly smaller living space. We have become more politically aware and active; our writing here at the blog should be evidence of that.

We have made sacrifices, and experienced tremendous highs and abysmal lows, but generally speaking we have been well. On the blog front, we switched from Google’s Blogger platform to self-hosting in 2015.

Sexually we have seen the gradual changing of our sexual boundaries, eventually achieving a state of openness. When the blog launched ten years ago Jill and I were completely monogamous, with even occasional non-monogamy a seeming pipe dream. I have to give 100% of the credit for that to Jill; while I’ve probably always been inclined toward non-monogamy and even polyamory, Jill has not, and an open relationship is not something she foresaw as a part of her life.  It was much more of a leap for her than it was for me, and I give her credit, and thanks, for taking it.

Which is not to say that this has been a total sacrifice for my wife.  Being open has given her confidence and self-image a boost in a way that I don’t believe could have been achieved even with all the love and support I could possibly give her.  Accordingly, she has seen many of her fantasies and unrealized desires become reality.

To close this post, I’ll share a couple highlights from the last ten years. Jill’s highlight is the time her short story “Open Box” was read by a fellow blogger as part of her now-defunct podcast. Mine is the time one of my posts received feedback from none other than pre-eminent sex therapist Dr. Ruth Westheimer.

We thank all of you who have been a part of this journey, whether you are a long-time reader, or this is your first time visiting our blog. Thanks for taking the time to get to know us.