what’s the most extreme sexual act/encounter you have both experienced together?
In case you’re reading this blog for the first time, I need to state for the record that we’re not exactly the sort who consider their sex life “extreme”. Varied? Certainly. Frequent? No doubt. Satisfying? Even if you’re new here, you must know the answer to that. But not exactly extreme in the sense that we require a fifteen-thousand-foot freefall or a depth of a hundred and fifty fathoms below the surface of the ocean in order to get off. Electric shock, humiliation, amputation – these are all legitimate kinks that add a significant boost to people’s sex lives. Not ours, though.
Make no mistake, we don’t consider ourselves vanilla by any means. We’ve always stated that kink is relative. One person’s wild and crazy new experience is another person’s passé been-there-done-that. Many of the people to whom we’re closest would undoubtedly consider some of the sex we’ve had together to be far outside their comfort zone, if not flat-out wrong. Fortunately neither of us lives our lives – sexual or otherwise – with anyone’s approval in mind.
Our brand of “extreme” really isn’t all that extreme. For us, stepping out of the realm of normalcy usually involves exhibitionism and voyeurism, and perhaps a little risk. Webcamming, semi-public sex or masturbation, or on the rare occasion that the opportunity presents itself, having sex in close proximity as other people, whether we are actually interacting with them, or more likely just enjoying the voyeurism and exhibitionism. It’s not something that we do often enough for our liking.
The most extreme sexual act or encounter that we have experienced together was likely our October 2011 visit to Power Exchange, a sex club in San Francisco, California. We’d gone there more or less on a lark, hoping to people-watch and then cross “visit a sex club” off of our bucket list before hopefully returning home full of sexual excitement, and fucking until the morning light. We hadn’t intended to actually have sex in front of a crowd of spectators, but we did. And despite the fact that it wasn’t our ideal experience at a sex club, it was a very fun evening. You can read all about the night in question here.
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I have read that one, and I wish I would have been there… probably not so much as a spectator though 😉
We have very similar kinks…I would like to go visit a sex club. Not telling what would happen. I’m going to read that post now!
Great answer. I love how you explain that kink and excitement are all relative because, like you, we’re adventurous, but not compared to some we’ve met in this community. Sometimes I compare myself to them and feel a bit dejected, like we’re really done nothing in comparison, so thanks for reminding me that it’s all relative.
And the Power Exchange… So close, yet still haven’t gone. “Gotta do that, Hi!”
“One person’s wild and crazy new experience is another person’s passé been-there-done-that.”
Oh, yes. So true.