-Jill

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(Submitted by Pagan Princess)

It’s appropriate that we’re answering this question today.  As we write this on Thursday night, we’ve just had a spur-of-the-moment dinner with relatives who are in town for Christmas.  Don’t get me wrong, it was a very nice visit, and we’re glad we were able to get together.  But they insisted on coming to our house with take-out rather than, say, meeting at a restaurant which would have enabled me to spend my Thursday in some fashion other than frantically cleaning our house from top to bottom.  The cleaning took time I wanted to use to write my Flash Fiction Friday story, and to work on this post as well.  Because most of our evening was spoken for, i.e. spent entertaining our guests, the blogging had to occur after they left and somewhat stymied my efforts to get to sleep at a reasonable hour, especially since sex with Jill before bed was mandatory.  Granted, I could have blown off the blog for one day, but that’s just not like me, is it?

Hopefully you have ascertained from the previous paragraph where the rest of this post is going.  December is an extremely busy month for us, just as we imagine it is for most people.  This weekend alone, we have on the schedule a holiday function related to Jill’s job, a baby shower (well, that one’s just for Jill), and two birthday parties on two consecutive days.  Granted, of these four events only one is specifically related to the holidays, but things will only get busier as we near Christmas, with multiple friends and relatives all in need of one-on-one time.  Some weekends we have obligations every evening, along with multiple events planned for Saturday and Sunday.

Additionally, December sees Jill baking almost continually.  Every night this week she’s been in the kitchen, making all manner of holiday goodies, many of which are given as gifts.  Some nights, after all is said and done, she doesn’t go to bed until it’s far too late to have sex.  On other nights, she’s too exhausted.  It isn’t unusual for her to just fall asleep on the couch.

That is not to say that we have no sex in December, or even that we have a significantly smaller amount than we do in, say, October.  It may be more difficult during the holiday season to have sex at night, but we do whatever we have to in order to ensure that we don’t neglect our physical needs.  Like anything else that is enjoyable and worth doing, maintaining an active sexual relationship often requires considerable effort, especially since we have a child whose presence sometimes impedes us.  We’re very fortunate that December sees Jill with a couple weeks off of work, during which time we’ve typically have as much sex as we possibly can.  If we’re not traveling – and we won’t be this year – we might be able to have sex three times some days:  Early morning, afternoon if our daughter naps, and late at night.  This won’t happen every day, but it’s likely to happen at least a couple times.

So in answer to this question, yes, our sex life does take a bit of a hit during the holiday season.  But we do our best to ensure that it’s a minor hit at best.

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Her hands groped for him on his side of the mattress as her eyes adjusted to darkness.  She squinted at the shadows, wondering if one was him, just coming to bed after a late-night workout.  She even called out, “Craig?”  The shadows didn’t reply.

She donned her bathrobe and went downstairs, moving quietly so as not to disturb their guest.  She assumed he’d fallen asleep in front of the TV as he sometimes did.  But at the bottom of the stairs the sounds of sex filled her ears and she realized exactly where he was.

She stood at the open doorway, watching as her husband fucked her best friend with wild abandon.  She stared at Julie’s legs, splayed wide, as Craig pounded her with what she knew to be eight thick inches of throbbing, steel-hard cock.  Julie’s feet tensed, toes curling as he drove her to orgasm before flipping her onto all fours.

They were going at it like – what was that old song lyric? – like they do on the Discovery Channel.  Her instinctive jealousy gave way to intense arousal, and as she felt the wetness flow, her robe fell to the floor and she dammed the flood with her fingers.

She wanted to walk right in and join them.  But first she would enjoy the show. (218/219)

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Naturally, we don’t exchange these gifts in mixed company, but rather in private on Christmas morning.  We’re pretty sure that the relatives with whom we spend Christmas Day probably wouldn’t know how to react if they saw me unwrapping a Duet vibrating cock ring, though I’d like to think that her sisters would respond with great interest.

“Why would it be embarrassing to unwrap a sex toy in front of the family?” asks Beck in an recent article for SexIs Social, the online magazine of EdenFantasys.  “After all [a gift] should be something that is useful.”  She goes on to analyze the numerous benefits of masturbation, including lower risk of prostate cancer in men, prevention of cervical infections in women, prevention of premature ejaculation, ease of sexual arousal and orgasm, and self-reliance.

Masturbation is something that virtually every single human being on the planet has done at some point in his or her lives, and more than likely does regularly.  It is a natural part of human sexual development, and not only is it not harmful in and of itself, regular masturbation seems to actually promote good health.  Why, then, is it viewed in such a negative fashion by the general public?

I’m going to go out on a limb here and say that the stigma surrounding masturbation is tied directly into the stigma surrounding sex in general.  While partnered sex is something to which most would admit, for many people masturbation carries a large degree of shame and guilt.  This is due in part to claims by the religious establishment that the Bible specifically forbids masturbation, as well as the misguided notion that masturbation is only for those who are incapable of sex with a partner.

Society in general must bear the blame for furthering such misinformation, or for allowing the furtherance thereof through its own inaction.  Masturbation has never been taught in American schools, to the best of my knowledge.  Even if it were, I imagine that it would be “taught” from the false perspective of “masturbation is morally wrong.”  If we were capable of engaging in a serious discussion on a topic as needlessly controversial as this, we might be able to deflate the myths and shine some light on an unfortunately-maligned practice that hurts no one.

So why aren’t we?  Why is discussion of masturbation more off-limits than politics and religion these days?  It’s pretty clear that it has a lot to do with the false but still pervasive notion that the primary function, if not the only function, of human sexuality is procreation.  Obviously countless people regularly have sex for pleasure.  But sometimes it seems as though no one is willing to admit it.

I’ve long wished for a society that was more relaxed with regard to sex.  I daydream about a world that isn’t so uptight, that doesn’t necessarily laud depictions of violence while criminalizing depictions of consensual sexuality.  A world wherein we could openly discuss things like masturbation, sex toys, and partnered sexual activity in so-called polite company without receiving dirty looks, being cut from everyone’s Christmas card list, or even being giggled at.

Were society to adopt a healthy attitude about sex, many of its dysfunctions would likely cease to exist.  There would be fewer hang-ups.  There would be far less pressure to conform to what the general public believes a relationship should be, and as a result, less tension between the sexes.  There would be more open communication.  Once people stopped feeling the need to stifle their sexual urges there would conceivably be less aggression.  War, and even road rage, might be a thing of the past.

The downside, of course, is that if I am able to openly discuss sexual matters in mixed company, then my parents might feel free to do the same, and that would totally squick me.  Hell, just the thought of it is squicking me right now.  But why should it be distasteful?  Presumably if we lacked our puritanical upbringing and the sexual hang-ups that accompany it, talking to my parents about sex, or even overhearing them talk about sex, would be no different than overhearing them talk about, say, their taxes.

Beck closes her article by asking her readers if they dare gift a sex toy this Christmas.  To reiterate my earlier point, we aren’t going to be exchanging naughty gifts in front of my in-laws this year.  But we did place an order for an nJoy Pure Plug, and – drumroll, please – the fabled Hitachi Magic Wand.  Though we ordered them together, they will likely be wrapped and placed under the tree, then unwrapped on Christmas morning, or more likely Christmas Eve after our daughter has gone to bed.  Reviews will follow.