You post a LOT of blogs, how do you find the time?? Jack, are you a stay at home dad?

(Submitted by Pagan Princess*)

You’re absolutely right.  The main reason why I am such a prolific blogger is because I do not punch a clock.  The reality of being a stay-at-home Dad means that it’s relatively easy for me to write a blog post or two each day, usually with enough time left over to read and comment on blogs.  Our daughter is two years old, and at times very independent.  While my typical day is far from leisurely – stay-at-home parents don’t have the luxury of sick days or even lunch breaks – and the pressure to succeed at raising a child is far greater than the pressure I felt at any of the myriad jobs I held previously, it’s nice to know that I can sit at my laptop for an hour or two and give voice to my feelings on the current sociopolitical climate, relate an account of the hot sex we had the night before, or test out my new Lelo Tor cock ring without worrying that my supervisor is going to fire me for being at my desk with my cock out.

The typical day finds me waking anywhere between five o’clock and eight o’clock in the morning, depending usually on my daughter’s sleep schedule.  On the days when I am able to sleep in, it’s because she is also sleeping in, and while I am pleased to have a bit of time to myself (a) I never use that time to shower, get dressed, and eat breakfast like a smart person would; and (b) it usually means that she won’t nap at all during the day.  It’s hard to believe that, when she was new, she would nap at least twice a day.  Anyway, the morning routine involves getting her washed, dressed, and fed, and somehow managing to sneak off for a shower.  We don’t have a backyard, but there are a few parks within walking distance so when the weather cooperates that’s where we usually find ourselves.  If I’m lucky she’ll take a nap on the way home, which means I usually have an hour or two of peace and quiet before Jill comes home.  In the past I was a lot better at timing the baby’s naps for just before Jill arrived, which meant two hours of uninterrupted sex.  Lately, though, there seems to be no pattern to her naps, and no predictability as to whether or not she takes one.

The blogging usually occurs in the morning while our daughter is playing or reading in her room, or distracted by a television show.  It isn’t always easy to write with the television playing; if necessary I use noise-cancelling headphones and white noise to block out the repetition of the average children’s television show.  Sometimes, however, I save the blogging for nighttime, typically when Jill is putting the baby to bed.  During that time I am able to sit in silence and write without distraction.

It probably helps that I enjoy writing to begin with.  I’ve been writing since I was around nine or ten years old.  I write just about anything, though poetry isn’t my strong suit.  It’s this love of writing, if not an aptitude for it, that makes it easy to blog every day.  We are also motivated by a need to share openly, by our appreciation of this unique forum in which to discuss our enjoyment of sex without fear of judgment or ostracism.  This is, in part, what keeps us going.  We are proud of this blog, and while it takes a lot of effort to blog at this pace, it will be well worth it if it means having a record of our sex life to someday look back on.