As we approach the one year anniversary of #FormspringFriday, can you reflect back on the year? What has been your favourite question? What was the hardest to answer? What has #FormspringFriday meant to you and your blog?
(Submitted by Cougar in Training)
Great question! It’s hard to believe that Formspring Friday is almost one year old! The small-scale, homegrown meme that Cougar in Training and I cooked up while trying to figure out what to do with our Formspring questions is still fairly small-scale, but we have greatly appreciated the opportunity to answer questions posed by our readers, and in doing so bare even more of our souls than we otherwise might.
This is the fifty-fourth edition of Formspring Friday. Over the course of fifty-four posts and almost as many weeks, we’ve answered questions that ran the spectrum from light-hearted, fun, and fairly shallow all the way to deeply personal. Some questions have been easy to answer, and others were the sort that we dreaded having to address, usually because of the seriousness of the subject matter and the weight of their answers.
Perhaps that’s an overstatement. Yes, some questions have been difficult to answer, but we’ve never deliberately avoided such a question, or for that matter any question. On the contrary, we sometimes found ourselves hurrying to address a question that we knew would conjure up painful or otherwise unpleasant memories from our respective pasts. For example, The Worst Sex Ever and Sexual Healing both concerned a traumatic incident from Jill’s past. While she was initially nervous, she found it empowering to get her feelings out.
I found our inaugural Formspring Friday post, entitled
Addressing the Lack of Jack, similarly daunting, as it was the first time I’d ever gotten naked on the blog. I remember being very relieved upon receiving ten positive comments! On a deeper level,
Lean on Me and
Regrettable were a bit more emotionally difficult, as they forced me to revisit my past, and remember some of the unsatisfying relationships I was in before I met Jill.
Honorable mention for this category goes to
Infidelity, a very candid post in which we talk about cheating, in particular incidents from our past in which we were unfaithful to a significant other. This post was nowhere near as difficult to talk about as the others we mentioned, though it was deeply personal and introspective, and saw us recalling events that had been buried for years.
As for our favorite questions, it would be virtually impossible to whittle our list down to one favorite, or even one favorite each. At best we might be able to come up with one absolute favorite, and a few runners-up. My favorite may be
Tying the Knot, wherein we recall in glorious detail our wedding night. This isn’t our most thought-provoking, deeply personal, or sexiest Formspring Friday post. There are others that trump this one on all levels. However, if unpleasant memories made some of the aforementioned posts difficult to write, wonderful memories made this one very easy and enjoyable to write.
Jill cites as her favorite Formspring Friday post
Unrealized Desires. In this post we discuss sexual scenarios we have not yet gotten to experience. I have it on good authority that Jill occasionally masturbates while re-reading this post, in particular the paragraph dealing with her two-men-at-once fantasy. I quote:
There’s something about the thought of two mouths and four hands traveling over my body that drives me wild, to say nothing of having two hard cocks to play with. In my fantasy I am usually on my hands and knees, with one guy fucking my pussy while the other one fucks my throat. However, it is increasingly common for this fantasy to feature double penetration. I’m not sure that I’d ever actually attempt that, but it’s really hot to imagine both men moving rhythmically inside me, one in my pussy and one in my asshole, driving me to one orgasm after another.
There are myriad other Formspring Friday posts that stick out in our minds for one reason or another.
A Porn and Masturbation Trifecta, wherein we answer a trio of excellent questions posed by
Sexy Savvy Geek, is a candid, funny, and sexy account of our porn-watching and masturbating habits. Likewise,
Asking Ourselves a Question sees us ranting about the state of the commercial porn industry. (I ask you, what is with all the spitting?)
We had a lot of fun with
Personal Relations, which saw us making lists of real-life acquaintances with whom we’d like to have sex. My list consisted of three women, and Jill’s list consisted of three men and three women. Most of the individuals are close friends, and while we don’t go into nearly enough detail about what we’d like to do with them, it was somewhat cathartic to put it on paper, so to speak. Unfortunately, this post got just one comment.
In light of our continuing ventures into relative non-monogamy, last week’s post, entitled
Authorized Personnel Only, details our evolving boundaries. It’s been exhilarating seeing Jill go from being fairly nervous at the thought of interacting with a woman during our first threesome to being much more proactive and in fact dominant in some ways during our most recent. Given our ever-widening comfort zone, we are both eager to see what is in store for the future.
I have to also mention
So Seductive, in which we were asked if we had ever teamed up, as husband and wife, to seduce a third. When we answered this question in July, we had not yet done so, and said that we hoped to rectify the situation before long. In November we did team up to seduce somebody, and we didn’t wait long at all before editing the post to reflect that fact.
Lastly, one of the coolest things that’s happened to us related to this blog happened because we posted
Time For Sex. Our friend
Liza Bennet brought the post to the attention of Dr. Ruth Westheimer via Twitter, and Dr. Ruth not only retweeted Liza’s tweet, but also commented on our post. That’s right, Dr. Ruth has read our blog. It was an incredible thrill, a brush with greatness if you will. It’s one of those things I’d love to be able to brag about to friends and relatives alike, but I can’t.
As for what Formspring Friday has meant to our blog, it is yet another avenue with which we can communicate with our readers and fellow bloggers. It’s exciting to find a new question in our
Formspring inbox, and in doing so, to realize that someone who we perhaps don’t know, and likely will never meet, cares about our opinion, or wants to hear more about some aspect of our sexual identity. We are flattered by the attention.
We are grateful to everyone who has ever submitted a question for us to answer. Without all of you, this meme would not exist. We would have published fifty-four fewer posts, and our blog would lack much of the excitement, fun, and feeling that we presume you all enjoy. Extra special thanks go out to
Cougar in Training for all the support, and for helping to realize Formspring Friday in the first place.
Formspring Friday may not be the sort of powerhouse that
TMI Tuesday is, but I think that’s part of what I enjoy about it. Our Formspring posts may not get much attention or feedback, certainly not as much as they did when there were as many as four or five blogs participating. But at the same time, it’s our humble little feature, one that will hopefully continue for a long time to come.
If you’ve asked a question that has yet to be answered, rest assured that it will. We have a small backlog of questions and we have every intention of answering all of them. If you want to ask us a sexy question, drop us a line on
Formspring, or use the handy Formspring widget on the right-hand side of our blog. To see who else participated this week, search
#FormspringFriday on Twitter! If you have a Formspring account and you aren’t already participating, feel free to join in the Formspring Friday fun!
Excellent recap! And I’m so glad to see that your feelings on Formespring Friday are very similar to mine!
I enjoyed re-reading some posts and reading some of them for the first time.
Here’s to another year of fun with FormspringFriday!