First TMI Tuesday for the Month of May.

Jack’s Answers

1. How long have you been blogging?
Frisky in the 916 represents my first venture into the blogosphere, though it’s far from my only one. We published our first post on September 18, 2008, which means we’ve been blogging more than six and a half years.

2. Tell us about your pen name? Is it a pen name?
Since we couldn’t blog under our real names, Jill and I needed alternate personalities to use online. We chose Jack and Jill not necessarily because of the masturbatory overtones, i.e. jacking off and jilling off, but because they were the first pair of associated male and female names that came to mind. Had our minds been elsewhere, we might have been Mickey and Minnie, Luke and Leia, or even Sheherazade and Shahryar.

3. What is your blog about?
Here at Frisky in the 916 we pride ourselves on delivering you breaking news from the tech industry as soon as it breaks. So, you know, technology, startups, and all the hot new gadgets, plus all the latest out of Cupertino. As if you couldn’t tell with a casual glance around the place.

4. Do you earn any money with your blog?
No. Between 2012 and 2013, I believe, we published a handful of sponsored posts on behalf of a certain adult retail website. In exchange, we received credit toward merchandise at said adult retail website and used it to purchase a few items. In 2013, after a series of bizarre moves on the part of the site’s management, we bailed, leaving more than a few dollars of earned credit unspent. It’s just as well; by then they’d implemented a new policy preventing bloggers from using that credit for 100 percent of a purchase. In other words, no matter how many sponsored posts you’d published, you still had to come out of pocket for that Tantus Raptor XL, or whatever. Anyway, we removed most if not all references to said retailer from our blog and unfollowed them on Twitter, because fuck those guys.

5. What inspired you to blog?
As we’ve mentioned elsewhere, we had always wanted a venue to discuss our sexual thoughts and fantasies, and to talk about the sex we’ve actually had. In short, we just wanted a forum to share this side of ourselves as it’s not something we could do in mixed company; most of our friends are far more sexually conservative than we are, at least publicly. Therefore it’s nice to have at the very least a means of communicating about sex, as well as a permanent record of our evolving views and boundaries. Beyond that, the thought of perhaps finding a coterie of like-minded friends – something we never thought possible – was appealing as well.

6. What keeps you blogging?
It’s funny you should ask. Between July of 2010 and August of 2011, our blog went dark. We published absolutely nothing for thirteen months. Among the reasons for this were the fact that we were adjusting to parenthood, that we’d forgotten our login to our old Blogger blog, and that we’d had a threesome in fall of 2010 – our first – and accordingly I saw no real reason to keep blogging as I figured I’d achieved everything I wanted to in the sexual realm. Eventually, however, I found that I really missed having the outlet, and of course I wasn’t done growing and evolving sexually. Therefore we jumped back into blogging in a big way, and while we’ve taken breaks here and there, we keep coming back to it. I’d love to say that the sense of community is what keeps us blogging – me especially – but the truth is, most of our non-Sinful Sunday posts get few if any comments, even on Twitter. Therefore, the thing that keeps me blogging is the Sara Winchester-like sense that I’m building something with this blog, and by stopping I’m doing myself a disservice. Additionally, the lack of feedback notwithstanding, I may be doing others a disservice as well. I’ve been a writer for decades, but nothing I’ve written outside of this blog has been read by as many people the world over. It’s pretty exciting.

7. Do you have any advice for readers looking for love? Looking to get laid? Looking for a threesome?
Love yourself. Seriously, know who you are, believe in yourself, and be confident. That may seem like an oversimplification, but if you don’t love yourself no one else is going to. Know your worth as a human being, and as a sexual being as well. Don’t act like an entitled prick, but don’t act like you believe yourself to be unworthy of the attention of others. And if you want a threesome, I’m sure there are many ways to go about having one, but having the confidence and self-respect to attract the right partner – if a partner is part of your plan – will ensure that you’re not saddled with someone whose long-term life agenda corresponds to your own.

8. Did you do your kegels today? When was the last time you did them? (Men: There is no evidence that kegels prevent erectile dysfunction. Source: WebMD)
No, but I masturbated. Did you? You should! It’s Masturbation Month!

Bonus: Do you have any special sexual gifts or talents or tricks? Tell us about it.
It’s been said that I’m very good at finding the G-spot.

Jill’s Answers

1. How long have you been blogging?
Since 2008. We’d been married just over a year, and sought a means of keeping an ongoing record of our sex life that we could look back on when we were senior citizens (and hopefully still enjoying a prodigious sex life).

2. Tell us about your pen name? Is it a pen name?
Inky. Seemed like a pretty good name for a pen.

3. What is your blog about?
I’m a Mommy Blogger, and as such I focus on recipes for healthy after-school snacks, making creative scrapbooking materials out of ordinary household items, determining appropriate television options for the under-twelve crowd, and the importance of reconnecting with one’s spouse at the end of the day. Oh wait. No I don’t. I focus on sex.

4. Do you earn any money with your blog?
I wish!

5. What inspired you to blog?
The main inspiration is all of the hot, passionate sex I have with Jack, which is a very compelling thing to read about. But more specifically Vincent Vega and Mia Wallace, two friends of ours, who had maintained a sex blog years earlier, suggested blogging as a means of keeping a record of our sex life. If you were active in the sex blogosphere (or on Twitter) in early 2012 you may remember them, though there blog has been shuttered for quite some time. Though they were (and as far as we know, still are) strictly monogamous, we both wanted to fuck Mia (and still do).

6. What keeps you blogging?
The truth is, I don’t blog much anymore. I have a handful of partially-written posts that I’ve been meaning to finish, some of them going back to 2013. Some are accounts of our sexual exploits, some involve my thoughts on politics and religion (but especially religion) as they relate to human sexuality, and others involve our never-ending need for discretion as we explore our boundaries. I’m hoping to complete as many as I can, though I have no projected date. For now, if not for TMI Tuesday, you probably wouldn’t hear from me at all.

7. Do you have any advice for readers looking for love? Looking to get laid? Looking for a threesome?
Be honest about what you want out of any relationship. Don’t just be honest with a potential partner. Be honest with yourself. Know your long-term objectives, and don’t compromise or settle. If you have to compromise or otherwise give up what you want for the sake of another person, then the other person is not the right one for you. There are far worse things than being alone. Above all, be happy with yourself. Until you are happy with yourself, you shouldn’t be in a relationship. If you’re just looking to get laid, though, have some confidence. You’re presumably no worse than any other person in the world, and if everyone else is getting laid (whether with one person, or two, or several), so can you.

8. Did you do your kegels today? When was the last time you did them? (Men: There is no evidence that kegels prevent erectile dysfunction. Source: WebMD)
I do them everyday. They’re easy to do while I’m sitting at my desk in my classroom, and they really help to tighten up the pelvic floor. As a result, my orgasms are more frequent, more intense, and longer-lasting. Plus I think I’m more likely to achieve simultaneous orgasm when having sex, which occurred on Sunday night. It was so exciting.

Bonus: Do you have any special sexual gifts or talents or tricks? Tell us about it.
I’d like to think that I have lots of sexual talents. I’ve gotten a lot of compliments on my oral sex technique, as well as my dirty talk. We should talk dirty sometime.

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