Our good friend (and constant lust object) Beck has nominated us for this award.  As is always the case when we receive such a nomination, we are honored to learn that someone we admire and desire in pretty much equal measure thinks so highly of our blog, and presumably of us as well. If you’d told us when we started this blog more than six years ago that we’d eventually find such a wonderful social network of erotic writers, kinksters, non-monogamists, and all-around sexy people, we wouldn’t have believed it; while we were quite prolific in the early days we had no idea how to go about publicizing our blog. So simply knowing that some of our peers hold us in such high regard all these years later is a thrill.

Our nomination for the Real Neat Blog Award comes with several questions that I have answered below. In addition I am nominating several bloggers who we ourselves hold in high regard; if they decide to participate, I’ve compiled several questions for them to answer. Now, without further ado:

1. What was the reason you decided to start blogging? Has that reason changed throughout time?
We originally started blogging in September 2008 with the intention of keeping a record of our sexual life together (and separately), as well as find like-minded individuals with whom we could talk about sex, and maybe fool around. That was where our minds were at in the beginning. Among the reasons we continue to blog as of May 2015 is that we (I especially) have a lot to say and really enjoy having a forum in which to do so, even if our readership seems more limited these days than it was in our blogging heyday of 2012. Also, we’ve found many like-minded individuals with whom we can talk about sex, and blogging serves as a means of keeping in touch, especially with those who do not tweet. Additionally, early this year we paid for two years of blog hosting, and we might as well protect our investment by continuing to use our blog.

2. Are there other bloggers whose work has given you inspiration? If so, share with us the blog and their post that gave you inspiration.
There certainly are. Many, however, are no longer active or otherwise blog very infrequently. Does anyone remember Lusting Lola, Cougar in Training, Hera, Good Will, or Tame in Comparison? They were among our first real blogging friends, and between the five they’ve published only eleven posts in the past twelve months. As for still-active bloggers who inspire us, I couldn’t possibly pick one single blogger, let alone one single post.  But Molly, Cheeky Minx, and Penny are amazing photographers (and writers), and I often find myself wishing I had their talent.  (They’re also hot.)

3. If there was one question you could ask your favorite blogger what would it be?
“Want to have sex with me?” Don’t pretend you didn’t see that coming.

4. Did you ever see yourself as a ______ blogger? (The blank is for whatever label you give your blog. Sex, kink, dating, etc.)
We consider ours a sex blog. So did I ever see myself as a sex blogger? No, not really.  I always thought of myself as someone who’d do all the sexual things that appealed rather than writing about them.  And while I now realize that one doesn’t have to choose, I never really considered myself a blogger at all, until I actually began blogging. This is because I fancy myself a writer, and I could never fathom spending time writing a blog when I could have been using that time to work on whatever my ongoing writing project – or projects – happened to be, whether screenplays, short stories, novels, or something else. The irony, of course, is that while I’ve been writing for the majority of my life, more people have read this blog than anything else I’ve ever written.

5. What website on the entire web, besides your own, do you spend the most time on?
Probably Twitter. I like the instant access Twitter gives me to a wide knowledge base, as well as the unflinching honesty. Few people in my day-to-day life know that I am non-monogamous and poly, or that I am an atheist, or that I suffer from depression. I can’t help but feel like I’d be judged for any and all of these things by people who expect me to be monogamous, Catholic, and mentally stable. So I keep these things very close to the vest. On Twitter, though, I feel comfortable being myself, and hide very little. It’s very freeing.

6. Gotta ask one toy question. Name your absolute favorite sex toy. (More than one is fine.)
I don’t use toys often, not even on Jill. I’m not sure why; it’s just as hot to use one of her many toys on her as it is to watch her do it herself.  Actually, the question didn’t ask which was my favorite sex toy to use. It just asked which one was my favorite. So I think I’ll go with the Eroscillator, which I bought Jill as a Christmas present in 2006 and which, almost a decade later, is still her favorite toy. We love it because of the variety of attachments, the ease of use during sex, i.e. it’s not difficult to place between our bodies; and the very long AC power cord which ensured that during the years when she and I lived apart, as long as there was a power outlet she wouldn’t have to go to bed – or to work – without an orgasm.

7. Last one is just for fun. Who is your favorite superhero and why?
I’m going to go with Wolverine. Not sure why, really. I think I just like his near-invulnerability. If I was that short and that hirsute – because I’m totally neither one of those things – I think I’d still be really confident if I knew that nothing short of suffocation in hardening Adamantium could kill me. (What can I say, I’m a guy who knows his superheroes.)

Nominations:

Beginning My New life as a Housewife and Erotic Writer

Bi Likes Sci Fi

Charlie in the Pool

Collared Mom

Knock on Wood

The Rambling Llama

Rebel’s Notes

Sincerely Yours…

Questions for the above bloggers:

1. How would you categorize your blog? Or does it defy categorization?

2. What is the single greatest benefit that blogging provides you?

3. Have you experienced any negativity as a direct result of blogging? If so, what is it and how did you overcome it?

4. Do you use a free blogging service such as WordPress or Blogger, or do you self-host? Why?

5. Do you blog anonymously, or are your family and offline friends aware of your blog?

6. How would you describe your writing process? Exactly how do you come up with subject matter and compose your posts?

7. What’s the last movie you watched?