“Time is not a line but a dimension, like the dimensions of space.”

“People assume that time is a strict progression of cause to effect, but actually, from a nonlinear, non-subjective viewpoint, it’s more like a big ball of wibbly-wobbly, timey-wimey… stuff.” Welcome to TMI Tuesday…

I Need My Space

Jack’s Answers

1. Do you think that fate or destiny play a role in love?
a. Absolutely
b. For the most part
c. Somewhat
d. Not really
e. Not at all
D. Not really. I don’t believe in fate or destiny, honestly; while I understand and to some extent value the excitement such concepts bring to those who do believe, I feel like belief in fate or destiny may cause one to subjugate their own free will, or otherwise devalue it. I would sooner believe that coincidence plays a role in love, but not fate or destiny.

2. True or False – If my sexual likes and dislikes are not in line with my partners, I change them.
Change what? My sexual likes and desires? Or my partners? Changing the latter is much more feasible than changing the former.

3. You and your partner are at a party. Both of you are equally acquainted with the hosts and the other people attending, although you aren’t the best of pals with any of the guests, you have conversed with them on a few occasions. During the socializing, what would you most likely do?
a. I’d stay glued to my partner’s side, conversing with the same people he/she is.
b. I’d be away from my partner, mingling with the other guests.
c. I’d stay near my partner, but involved in different conversations.
d. I spend some time by my partner’s side, and some time mingling.
e. I let my partner drift or stick by me – as she/he wishes.
D. It depends on the crowd; a recent party thrown by Jill’s old co-workers saw me essentially abandoning her to her friends while I chatted up other guests. On the other hand, at a party thrown by one of my high school friends that very same night I stuck close to my wife, eager to leave because my friend’s friends creep me out.

4. Have you ever gone through your partner’s journal, diary or personal letters?
a. Yes – I‘ve read it/them from A to Z.
b. Yes – I’ve read some of it/them.
c. I know where she/he keeps them but I haven’t read any.
d. I know where she/he keeps them – I couldn’t help but look – but I haven’t read any.
e. No – I don’t know where she/he keeps them, and I have no intention of looking.
f. No – I don’t know she/he keeps them, even though I’ve looked.
E. I would never willingly violate someone’s privacy in any fashion. Seeing something not intended for my eyes, whether a text message, a written journal, or a revealing picture, doesn’t sit well with me at all.  Even if it’s not my fault, it causes me a lot of guilt.

5. Have you ever had a romantic partner go through your journal, diary, personal letters or text messages without your permission? How did you feel? What did you do?
No, although I have probably had partners who would have done so had they known where to look. I shouldn’t have dated these people.

Bonus: What makes you feel loved?
Someone choosing me over all else – work, television, family, etc. – at least once in awhile. Knowing my interests. Feeling empathy toward me or otherwise caring about my feelings. Showing my importance through actions as well as words.

Jill’s Answers

1. Do you think that fate or destiny play a role in love?
a. Absolutely
b. For the most part
c. Somewhat
d. Not really
e. Not at all
C. Somewhat. I think being at the right place at the right time in order to make such a connection is a little like fate or destiny.

2. True or False – If my sexual likes and dislikes are not in line with my partners, I change them.
True. I tend to change myself to please my partner. I probably do it too much. Although I do let my own preferences and the things I enjoy be known to them as well.

3. You and your partner are at a party. Both of you are equally acquainted with the hosts and the other people attending, although you aren’t the best of pals with any of the guests, you have conversed with them on a few occasions. During the socializing, what would you most likely do?
a. I’d stay glued to my partner’s side, conversing with the same people he/she is.
b. I’d be away from my partner, mingling with the other guests.
c. I’d stay near my partner, but involved in different conversations.
d. I spend some time by my partner’s side, and some time mingling.
e. I let my partner drift or stick by me – as she/he wishes.
D. I’d probably start together, then mingle as the party went on. I’d check back in with my partner depending on how the conversations go.

4. Have you ever gone through your partner’s journal, diary or personal letters?
a. Yes – I‘ve read it/them from A to Z.
b. Yes – I’ve read some of it/them.
c. I know where she/he keeps them but I haven’t read any.
d. I know where she/he keeps them – I couldn’t help but look – but I haven’t read any.
e. No – I don’t know where she/he keeps them, and I have no intention of looking.
f. No – I don’t know she/he keeps them, even though I’ve looked.
C. I haven’t intentionally tried to read them. If he is typing next to me and I look up, I may see a word or two; I usually then look away. I figure they’re his private thoughts. I wouldn’t want someone invading my privacy like that. Plus, I don’t think I would want to read something that may hurt my feelings.

5. Have you ever had a romantic partner go through your journal, diary, personal letters or text messages without your permission? How did you feel? What did you do?
To my knowledge, I haven’t.

Bonus: What makes you feel loved?
Lots of things. A kiss, a kind word, a phone call out of the blue from someone who can sense my mood and check in on me.

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