Heyyyy! TMI Tuesday time again.

1. Is your sex life more fantasy or reality?
These days, it’s probably equal parts both. While there’s a lot more reality than fantasy than has been the case over the last year and a half, there’s definitely a significant fantasy aspect owing at least in part to the fact that most of my partners are too far away to see regularly.

2. If you could hook-up with a past lover (with no repercussions or regret), who would it be and why? (No need to use real names just briefly describe the person and their relationship to you.)
This was a tough one to answer. Most of my former lovers have been good-to-amazing in bed, and any of them was a potential answer to this question. Ultimately I think I’d go with the girlfriend I had in my mid-twenties; at that age I was really good at sex, but arguably lacking in some of the confidence I possess now. I wouldn’t mind revisiting the sexual (and undeniable emotional) connection I had with this person in my current state.

3. You can only indulge in one of the following sex acts for the rest of your life, which would you choose to enjoy?
a. oral sex, only giving
b. 69
c. oral sex, only receiving
d. mutual masturbation
Wow. This is also a toughie. I enjoy all of these, but I don’t know that I can possibly choose one at the expense of the other three. I really love getting head, and I love giving it as well, possibly more. But I don’t think I could select (a) with the understanding that I’d never experience (c) ever again. I’d go with 69, but while I really do enjoy that particular act, sometimes I want to take turns and truly focus on one of us at a time. I’m inclined to go with (a) if only because that doesn’t preclude me from fingering my partner, and I’m told my fingering skills are considerable. Still, the thought of fingering without eating at the same time is pretty sad.

4. With each lover do you pay attention to what they want or do you have a repertoire that you stick to when having sex?
I realize everybody is different, so while I have a default repertoire, I try to check in with my partner and see what’s working for her, then adjust said repertoire based on her needs and desires.

5. Do you initiate sex for healthful benefits, e.g., to sleep better or relieve pain?
I suppose that I have. Not for the specific benefits stated above, but because emotional connection and release sometimes – often? – provide me significant mental health benefits.

Bonus: Do you understand the clitoris?
Probably not. I’m just glad I can find it.

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