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Meeting Rye: Day Two
Meeting Rye: Day One
Sinful Sunday: A Sexy Guest
This week Jill and I were graced with a visit from Rye, who you may know from her blog Chasing Me, Chasing You. If you hadn’t already gleaned from our tweets on Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday, we had an absolutely blissful time. You’ll likely be able to read about it here by the end of the week, but until then we hope you’ll enjoy this alluring view.
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TMI Tuesday: October 4, 2016
TMI Tuesday time. Answer these interesting questions adapted from Red Lipstick Project’s Sexual IQ test.
Jack’s Answers
1. You want to make love, but your partner says they’re too tired:
A. You’re annoyed and frustrated.
B. It’s a bummer, but you understand they’ve had a long day.
C. You give your partner an awkwardly long hug and say you’re happy to wait. It’s better when you’re both into it.
D. You get nervous and worried. Maybe your partner is cheating or doesn’t think you’re attractive anymore.
B. Actually, this isn’t really a scenario. If I told Jill I wanted to fuck (because I don’t usually use the expression “make love”), she’d indulge me. Even if she was exhausted, she’d lie there and get fucked. It’s just who she is. The closest we really ever come to the described scenario is when we’re both in bed and very close to sleep, and we start groping and kissing. Usually this kind of play escalates to penetration quickly, but once in awhile it doesn’t. In such cases the play slows down and one or both of us falls asleep. It’s my own fault for not verbally expressing my need, but the fact that I don’t means I’m probably too exhausted to fuck anyway.
2. Who is having better sex? You or your best friends?
A. I am, obviously.
B. We don’t talk about our sex lives. Ever.
C. We all have our good times and bad times. We don’t usually compare.
D. My friends have all the good sex. I can’t keep up.
A. Of the two friends I’m likely to consider my best, one is single and probably doesn’t get laid, while the other has been married a couple years and probably doesn’t get laid. I have no concrete facts on the situation, but I can’t imagine either of them having as satisfying sex life as I do. Make no mistake, they both might be having plenty of really good sex. They might not be able to fathom better sex than what they’re having right now. But I’m guessing that for me it would fall short.
3. How do you feel right after sex?
A. Sweaty and ready to shower. A little gross.
B. Satisfied and energized. Ready to take on the world.
C. Calm and happy, falling asleep.
D. A bit let down and tired.
B. I almost always have a surplus of energy after orgasm, whether it’s during partnered sex or masturbation. In fact, I often want another one.
4. Which is better? Being a man or woman?
A. Men have it so much easier
B. Women have it so much easier
C. I’m having too much fun being me to worry about it.
D. Is there really much of a difference?
A. I’d love to have been able to answer “D”, but men have it easier and it isn’t even close. I’m not happy about this, despite the fact that I’ve continually benefited from male privilege throughout my life. As the father of a daughter, and a man who generally loves and admires women, it’s problematic. As comedian Dennis Miller once said, before he turned to the neoconservative dark side, “Having drinks bought for you and being able to cry your way out of a speeding ticket don’t make up for lower wages, date rape, pickup trucks with naked women silhouetted on the mud flaps, no affordable child care, happy-handed bosses, not being called on in class even when you know the answer, and having to take most of the responsibility for birth control.” What the fuck happened to you, Dennis? Your ass used to be beautiful.
5. You and your partner had sex that wasn’t that good. You:
A. Don’t say anything. Everyone has an off day.
B. Complain or drop hints that things better improve.
C. Consider whether you should break up. Sex is the glue to a good relationship.
D. Discuss it immediately and see if there is anything you should be doing differently.
Sex that wasn’t good? Does not compute.
6. What advice do you wish you had when you started having sex?
A. Sex is a great thing–healthy and fun.
B. A proper tour of the reproductive parts as errogenous zones and not from a biology point of view. Bodies are really strange and getting to know them can be awkward.
C. Sex is a beautiful thing but be careful to protect your body from STD’s and pregnancy or you won’t have as much fun.
D. Enjoy sex while you can, because it gets worse as you get older.
B, most likely. It’s important to look at sex as something more than a relatively dry chapter of one’s biology curriculum. That being said, I knew all about it long before I ever started having sex because I read literally anything on the subject that I could get my hands on.
Bonus: What will your sex life be like when you’re 70 years old?
A. I can’t imagine having sex when I get wrinkly.
B. Probably a little sex here and there.
C. Hopefully my years of knowledge and hard work in the bedroom will pay off when I am having good sex in my 70’s.
C. I hope so, anyway.
Jill’s Answers
1. You want to make love, but your partner says they’re too tired:
A. You’re annoyed and frustrated.
B. It’s a bummer, but you understand they’ve had a long day.
C. You give your partner an awkwardly long hug and say you’re happy to wait. It’s better when you’re both into it.
D. You get nervous and worried. Maybe your partner is cheating or doesn’t think you’re attractive anymore.
C. Although it’s rare, there are nights when Jack and I don’t manage to sync up sexually. Rather than hug, we usually cuddle as we fall asleep. It’s not awkward though.
2. Who is having better sex? You or your best friends?
A. I am, obviously.
B. We don’t talk about our sex lives. Ever.
C. We all have our good times and bad times. We don’t usually compare.
D. My friends have all the good sex. I can’t keep up.
A. Although I don’t talk to my best friends about our sex lives, I’m going to go out on a limb and say that I definitely am. I know just enough about their sexual likes and dislikes and those of their partners to say (without meaning to sound boastful) that Jack and I are far more physically compatible than they are. Anyway, our sex life has always been amazing, and it’s getting better all the time.
3. How do you feel right after sex?
A. Sweaty and ready to shower. A little gross.
B. Satisfied and energized. Ready to take on the world.
C. Calm and happy, falling asleep.
D. A bit let down and tired.
B and C. When we have sex in the morning and the afternoon, I am always energized. When it happens at night, it’s the perfect way to end the day and I am relaxed and ready for sleep.
4. Which is better? Being a man or woman?
A. Men have it so much easier
B. Women have it so much easier
C. I’m having too much fun being me to worry about it.
D. Is there really much of a difference?
C. While I realize that both sexes are unfortunately not equal, I don’t wish to dwell on it. If I did, I wouldn’t enjoy life, and lately that’s all I’ve been doing. Things are pretty damn good.
5. You and your partner had sex that wasn’t that good. You:
A. Don’t say anything. Everyone has an off day.
B. Complain or drop hints that things better improve.
C. Consider whether you should break up. Sex is the glue to a good relationship.
D. Discuss it immediately and see if there is anything you should be doing differently.
A. It doesn’t happen often, though. Jack frequently checks in on me during sex to make sure I’m enjoying it. After a dozen years, he’s gotten very good at reading my sounds, movements, and body language.
6. What advice do you wish you had when you started having sex?
A. Sex is a great thing–healthy and fun.
B. A proper tour of the reproductive parts as errogenous zones and not from a biology point of view. Bodies are really strange and getting to know them can be awkward.
C. Sex is a beautiful thing but be careful to protect your body from STD’s and pregnancy or you won’t have as much fun.
D. Enjoy sex while you can, because it gets worse as you get older.
A. I could really have benefited from hearing that sex is healthy and fun. That’s really lacking in so-called sex education these days. Had I really known how amazing sex could be, I might have approached it with a different attitude in my early days.
Bonus: What will your sex life be like when you’re 70 years old?
A. I can’t imagine having sex when I get wrinkly.
B. Probably a little sex here and there.
C. Hopefully my years of knowledge and hard work in the bedroom will pay off when I am having good sex in my 70’s.
C. Sex will always be fun, I think. And hot!
How to play TMI Tuesday: Copy the above TMI Tuesday questions to your webspace (i.e., a blog). Answer the questions there, then leave a comment below, on this blog post, so we’ll all know where to read your responses. Please don’t forget to link to tmituesdayblog from your website!
House Vs. Hotel
On Tuesday we have a guest coming to stay with us for a couple days. She’s a Twitter friend and a fellow blogger; if you make a point of reading sexy blogs like this one, there’s a good chance you’ve read hers as well. Although we’ve been in communication for a couple years, this will be our first time meeting her in person. As she is a submissive, we were instructed by her husband and Master to do with her more or less as we please. In fact, as I was told back in August, “her trip this October is going to be a ‘loan,’ the same way I would let my neighbor borrow my grill if he promised to clean it before giving it back. The key thing in that analogy is that my neighbor doesn’t ask the grill whether it wants to cook chicken or steak. So I hope you feel empowered to make the most out of your ‘loaner’.”
Needless to say, I’m excited if a bit daunted by the opportunity to get my Dom on. While I am more dominant than submissive, I don’t lead with that. I mean, if I really have to choose a role from between those two, I’ll choose “dominant” ten times out of ten. But as you likely know, BDSM isn’t something Jill and I regularly practice. Sure there’s some restraint play on occasion, and impact play usually in the form of a spanking while fucking doggy style (though almost never for its own sake). We find the whole thing hot, just not something in which we’re compelled to engage very often. More than anything, I’m just looking forward to spending a couple days fucking a new person, especially inasmuch as my small but usually reliable stable of local play partners seem to have moved on to greener pastures.
Our daughter will be out of the house while our guest is visiting. Back in June I asked my mom if she’d take her to a hotel for those two days. (My mom isn’t local, and since it’s mid-week she can’t drive our daughter to her house several hours’ drive away; she’s got school, and a number of after-school activities that require her to spend her weekdays close to home.) Of course, since it might have seemed strange to ask someone to watch our child at a hotel, I had to lay the cards on the table, so to speak, and let her know we have an open relationship.
(Oh wait – we haven’t made the announcement here, have we? We’ve been completely open since April. There is a blog post or two to be written about our first forays into honest-to-goodness openness, and for that matter the aforementioned conversation with my mother. A couple are sitting in my drafts folder right this moment. But it’s been a busy several months and I suck at follow-through.)
Everything is ready for the arrival of our guest, who I’ve been referring to as “my new toy” on Twitter. The house is clean. Some requested foodstuffs have been purchased. Condoms have been purchased. The Liberator Throe is folded and ready for use. The only thing left to do was book my mother’s hotel room. However, when I told my daughter after school on Friday that she’d be staying with her grandmother for a couple days, she got upset. With good reason, I suppose; while my mother thought she would find it a treat to stay in a hotel, order in room service, and generally have a change of scenery for a couple days, in reality my six-year-old can be wary of changes to the routine. She likes her bed. She likes the couch. She likes her enormous stockpile of toys, Legos, books, and the like. Whereas my wife equates staying in a hotel with having someone else make your bed, clean your room, and basically wait on you, my daughter is in first grade, and the chores we require her to do aren’t such that she looks forward to a brief respite from them.
Then it occurred to me: Why not let them stay at the house, while Jill and I enjoy our plaything at a hotel? That would seem to make more sense anyway. We get to spend a couple days in a decadent king bed, eating room service and letting someone else clean up after us, and my kid doesn’t have to lug a ton of crap to a hotel or otherwise disrupt her routine. That sounded pretty appealing for all concerned. After all, our guest probably doesn’t necessarily care about our house beyond the bedroom, and while I’d thought about fucking her on our balcony I wasn’t necessarily married to the idea; the bed, the shower, and whatever other surfaces a hotel room might offer were plenty.
I considered the food situation; Jill was hoping to cook a nice meal one of the nights (we’d presumably order delivery the other night). While I doubt she would have been heartbroken over not being able to if we were in a hotel, she’s as skilled in the kitchen as she is in the bedroom (or in the back seat of her date’s Lexus – feel free to tweet her if you’d like details), and I know it’s an ego boost when she cooks for appreciative guests. On the other hand, having access to a full kitchen would mean my mother could make school lunches for our daughter the night before, rather than Jill or I having to make them all on Monday night and store them in the hotel mini-fridge.
Ultimately, though, Jill and I decided to remain in the house and let my mom and our daughter take the hotel as originally planned. A major motivator for this decision was our desire not to let our guest feel like we somehow didn’t trust her in our home. We both thought that hosting her in a hotel room, while surely a fun and sexy time, would be the equivalent of putting away the good china before visitors come over. She’s someone we consider a friend, and while she insists she is down for anything, we’d feel bad if she got the impression that we’d booked a hotel room just to deny her access to our home. Also, we’re looking forward to getting to know her better (beyond sexually) while she’s here, and trust me: There’s no better way to see exactly who we are than by spending some time in our home.
The decision to remain in the house was facilitated by our daughter suddenly being excited about staying in a hotel. But as it turns out, my mom and her granddaughter are going to be spending those two days at my aunt’s house. Our daughter will get to play with her second cousins, and the school lunch issue is negated by the presence of an actual kitchen where lunches can be prepared the night before. Additionally, eschewing a hotel will save Jill and I a couple hundred bucks, which I’m guessing my mother would have sought to pay anyway. It’s nice having supportive family.
Sinful Sunday: Sitting on the Edge of the Bed
Here’s Jill showing off the high heels last seen on a hotel nightstand.
Sinful Sunday: High Heels
She leaves her shoes atop the nightstand and climbs onto the bed. I don’t keep her waiting.
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Sinful Sunday: In the Shadows
Here’s Jill relaxing during our recent hotel stay. I think she looks quite mysterious here, and very sexy as usual.
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Sinful Sunday: Knelt
She’s waiting to get fucked on a hotel sofa. Yes, I did eventually put down the camera and comply.










